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    9 months ago

    “For the young the days go fast and the years go slow; for the old the days go slow and the years go fast.”

    —Anna Quindlen, Lots of Candles, Plenty of Cake (2012)

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      9 months ago

      How you view death impacts how you live life. You now have a feeling shared and contemplated by all of humankind before you, and all the humankind after you. This is the human condition.

      Embrace it, come to terms with it, choose to live today and enjoy rather than worrying about that which you have no control over.

      Those words are very easy to type but much harder to live.

      Best of luck.

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        9 months ago

        What about counting the probable number of years you have left, and from there the number of things you have time to do? How may meals, movies, vacations left? Can you waste this rest day eating ramen in front of a bad Netflix show?
        Have fun

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              What’s a wise use of your time? Likely many many people will argue over what a wise use of time is. I’ve used my time in what is considered foolish ways and it turned out great. I’ve been carefully wise with it only for things to blow up and leave me starting over. We can never be sure of our plans for we are of mice and men.

              Time does one thing for us regardless of anything we do, no matter how much we may sometimes wish otherwise. Time passes.

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                Based on your experience, and what people teach you, you can have a statistical average idea of what will happen if you invest time on some things (studies, work, health etc.). Of course there are some statistically improbable outcomes sometimes, for the worse and for the best, but on average you should be in the normal range.
                Yes time passes, but as an educated human in a democratic developed country, you have a lot of freedom on how you want to spend it, use it!

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                  Why assume I don’t? I use my time very well by my estimation. Plenty would think I’m totally blowing it. Doesn’t matter as they will be just as dust as I before long. Time will pass just the same after humanity is dead. We cannot use time. It is doing it’s own thing and we are pushed along for the ride no matter what happens.

                  That’s why I stand by my words. We can’t use time, thus we can’t waste it or use it wisely. We can only pass through it on its terms, never ours.

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      9 months ago

      Don’t worry because this is exactly how it feels.

      I’m in my mid 50s this year and only 5 years ago I was 35. The entirety of my 40s lasted as long as my late 30s.

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        9 months ago

        Gross. I’m turning 30 next year and I’m absolutely not looking forward to this.

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    9 months ago

    Looks like their “friend” is actually draining their life force to stay young themselves.

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    9 months ago

    let me tell you. i’m 39. my 30s are taking FOREVER. depression anxiety and neurodivergence will do that.

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    This is a real phenomenon. The way it was explained to me, it’s because of how time takes a relatively smaller percentage of your lifespan when you’re older. When you’re ten, 5 years represents half your life, so 5 years feels like it passes very slowly; when you’re 50, 5 years represents 10% of your life, so 5 years feels like it goes by in an instant.