• HelixDab2@lemm.ee
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    4 months ago

    That’s an… Interesting take. I guess it depends on how you’re defining ‘kink’. I think of the people I’ve known that were into impact play, blood, vomit, bondage (no, not fuzzy handcuffs; as an aside, don’t use real handcuffs because they’ll cause nerve damage), mummification, age play (!), consensual non-consent (with varying degrees of how much consent they wanted to give prior to anything), lifetime M/s, etc. and most of them were between average and overweight. Extremely physically fit people were significantly under-represented at the conferences and conventions that I’ve been to. Personally, I’d say that if it not at least something that kink.com would host–or would be too extreme for their credit card processors–then it’s not really kink, but just variations on vanilla.

    If you define kink as anything other than lights-off missionary, then eh, maybe?

    'Course, at one time, oral sex was considered to be an extreme form of perversion.

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      🥺👉👈 it was just a fun little joke.

      But to answer you: I’m part of my local kink community. There are all sorts of meetings ranging from workshops, kinky stuff or just having coffee. In my experience, the body types I’ve seen there are quite mixed and there isn’t really a majority of any of them. I don’t really mean that petite girls are the kinkiest of all, just joking for dramatic effect haha

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        I don’t think that there was really a lot of real community the last big city I lived in. Maybe that’s just a matter of in-group/out-group politics though; I wouldn’t have any good way to know if there was a real community if I was never invited to be a part of it. I do recall that there was a pretty sharp split at the local dungeon between the people that were ‘purists’ and the people that weren’t, e.g., the people that want to kink to be completely separate from sex vs. the people that wanted it to be part of sex. If there was a community that I wasn’t aware of, perhaps the community was mostly the people that were the former rather than the latter.

        …Or maybe I just give off super-creepy vibes.

        I do recall that petite women (and men, although to a much lesser extent) were usually the ones doing suspensions; risks of nerve compression injuries were significantly lower for them.

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    4 months ago

    Did you know how long the list of things I’d like to do to you is, or how long the list of things I’d like you to do to me is; or which is longer? That should be sufficient, barely.