• ComradeSharkfucker@lemmy.ml
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    3 months ago

    I have a problem with staring, I like to observe people I find interesting but I always get very worried that they will notice I’m observing them and think it has a negative connotation. In reality im staring because I think their outfit is cool or because I noticed a behavioral tick I found interesting

    • VerilyFemme@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 months ago

      I relate to you deeply, sharkfucker420.

      The worst is when you notice someone has a really cool necklace and they make eye contact with you as you realize exactly what part of the body you appear to be looking at when observing someone’s necklace.

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        3 months ago

        Oh, I feel this so much!

        I try to choke out a simple compliment, when I’m caught at this. It’s awkward, but at least it’s honest.

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      3 months ago

      Germany is your promised land. Go there and stare at whomever, because they’ll be staring at you back in mutual idle curiosity.

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      3 months ago

      and then they look back at you and you can’t decide whether to look away, making it even more obvious, or keep staring, and making if weird

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        3 months ago

        I just pretend I’m staring at something beside or behind that person or that I’m just zoned out. Not sure if it works, but no one has complained.