Yea. I mean I’m a dude so slightly less of a concern for me compared to yourself but still concerning.
I live in a fairly isolated town so it’s not impossible for me to get to events but a little difficult and expensive. Other events and stuff to spend money on always come up. I did go to a Torture Garden event once, but that was over 10 years ago 😱
I’m in England, the north specifically. Kink events do happen in the UK but they’re rare and mostly in London or Birmingham.