Ok cool, that makes the explanation shorter, since it’s a lot easier in Bannerlord. Warband was a lot less forgiving when it came to going independent.

Honestly, if this is your first time doing so, I recommend just following the campaign. It’s got a nifty little story that helps tie everything together and gradually helps you acclimate to the games mechanics. You also get a pretty awesome companion when you rescue your brother. That dude alone is enough reason to start games in campaign mode. Once you assemble the dragon banner, you’ll get the option to create your own kingdom and already have some allies.

I also recommend this guide that helped me when I first started a few years ago. It might be a bit out of date compared to current versions, but I can’t tell you about the meta for the latest version since I haven’t played in like a year.

Just remember, it’s a game. The point is to have fun playing!

Now go get that butter!