Sounds like my son. He hates sharing his music no matter what it is. Same with videos. It’s so stupid. Just tell me and move on why is the 21 pilots song you’re listening to need to be top secret.
This is not a comment on you, but I do the same thing and have come to realize it’s at least in part a response to being judged in some way (or feeling judged at least) over things I shared with my family, so now I just don’t share.
If it’s important to you, it might be worth having a conversation about why they are withholding and, if it’s for similar reasons, addressing why they feel that way and assuring them you’ll do your best to keep them from feeling bad about sharing.
Music and entertainment tastes in general tend to be quite personal, so it’s probably a bit of insecurity. He’ll get over it, just explain that it’s not a test, you’re just chatting. Maybe share some of yours first or something
I agree with this. For some reason I am pretty personal about what I’m listening to as well. Mostly if I know the person asking me won’t/doesn’t like it I just don’t care for them to comment that they don’t like it or think it’s weird what I’m listening to. Idk
Some people (myself included) tie the music they like to a part of their soul, and exposing that to someone who may treat it with complete disregard feels very vulnerable
So because you developed a parasocial relationship with the music you listen to you can’t tell someone the name of the song they hear you playing? Because that’s what we’re talking about here.
Oh I told him that and I do share mine but they hate it. Imagine being so old they think Thrid Eye Blind, Match Box Twenty, and Goo Goo Dolls is old music.
Haven’t even got to classic rock like AC/DC, Aerosmith etc. I don’t know what to do.
It’s not a bad thing to try to bring your kid’s boundaries further out. It can be socially good for them to be more open. Then they won’t end up like the guy in the meme
That’s just wrong. If you try to push your kids limits without teaching them respecting boundaries and talking to other people respectfully, things like the guy in this picture will happen.
It’s okay to have boundaries and we have to teach kids to communicate them in a respectful, firm and friendly manner.
Cuz kids don’t like having their parents asking questions about their life… how is that even surprising to you? It’s ok to ask but if they aren’t forthcoming you can’t just say it’s stupid. That’s how you get a kid to start doing things secretly.
Sounds like my son. He hates sharing his music no matter what it is. Same with videos. It’s so stupid. Just tell me and move on why is the 21 pilots song you’re listening to need to be top secret.
This is not a comment on you, but I do the same thing and have come to realize it’s at least in part a response to being judged in some way (or feeling judged at least) over things I shared with my family, so now I just don’t share.
If it’s important to you, it might be worth having a conversation about why they are withholding and, if it’s for similar reasons, addressing why they feel that way and assuring them you’ll do your best to keep them from feeling bad about sharing.
It’s really weird to me. As a teen I loved telling the world what I was listening because it was obviously the best thing on earth, man.
Music and entertainment tastes in general tend to be quite personal, so it’s probably a bit of insecurity. He’ll get over it, just explain that it’s not a test, you’re just chatting. Maybe share some of yours first or something
I agree with this. For some reason I am pretty personal about what I’m listening to as well. Mostly if I know the person asking me won’t/doesn’t like it I just don’t care for them to comment that they don’t like it or think it’s weird what I’m listening to. Idk
Some people (myself included) tie the music they like to a part of their soul, and exposing that to someone who may treat it with complete disregard feels very vulnerable
So because you developed a parasocial relationship with the music you listen to you can’t tell someone the name of the song they hear you playing? Because that’s what we’re talking about here.
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Oh I told him that and I do share mine but they hate it. Imagine being so old they think Thrid Eye Blind, Match Box Twenty, and Goo Goo Dolls is old music.
Haven’t even got to classic rock like AC/DC, Aerosmith etc. I don’t know what to do.
What you need to do? Strip him of his inheritance until he broadens his music taste.
People who downvoted this comment can’t take a joke apparently. As a parent I wouldn’t do this irl, but I laughed.
A calm, measured response
Why do you want to do anything at all? How about respecting his boundaries? That would be good start.
It’s not a bad thing to try to bring your kid’s boundaries further out. It can be socially good for them to be more open. Then they won’t end up like the guy in the meme
That’s just wrong. If you try to push your kids limits without teaching them respecting boundaries and talking to other people respectfully, things like the guy in this picture will happen.
It’s okay to have boundaries and we have to teach kids to communicate them in a respectful, firm and friendly manner.
My favorite band is one that I tend not to tell people about because it’s too much trouble explaining what they are.
It’s Sigur Ros, and anyone who knows them knows the struggle.
But it’s definitely not some basic 21 Pilots that everyone knows.
Sigur Ros is very popular
They didn’t even fill the Cobb theater in ATL the last time they came.
They’re certainly not very popular. I don’t know anyone in real life who knows them who weren’t introduced by me.
Yeah I guess they aren’t as big in the US, that’s fair. But they are very popular within their genre and in Europe
Cuz kids don’t like having their parents asking questions about their life… how is that even surprising to you? It’s ok to ask but if they aren’t forthcoming you can’t just say it’s stupid. That’s how you get a kid to start doing things secretly.