• Lmaydev@programming.dev
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    If you are doing only fans or similar how are you not consenting? It’s fully on your terms.

    I doubt most people in the military would consent to getting their dick blown off by a mine if given the opportunity.

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      If you are doing only fans or similar how are you not consenting? It’s fully on your terms.

      Issue is you don’t know what’s going on behind the scenes. That woman on OnlyFans could be in horrible debt or have a manipulative boyfriend or some other social factor pressuring her into it when she actually hates it. But part of the appeal of OnlyFans is that its “more ethical” than regular porn so they have to keep up the façade of “loving their job”.

      Now are there women who genuinely like doing it and are just in it long enough to pay their way through med school or whatever? Yeah probably, and I kinda doubt the women who have two blogs and a podcast about how much they love doing sex work are faking it cuz that’d be A LOT of effort just to sell people on your OnlyFans. Truth is thought under capitalism there is not 100% sure fire way to know if the woman is doing this 100% consensually. Heck you probably wouldn’t ever have that under socialism, but the likelihood would at least be higher.

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        There’s a reason why people who join the U.S. military are disproportionately poor.

        You’re describing a problem that is common across “industries” as if it were unique to sex work, when it’s not.

        It’s unreasonable to posit that somehow Onlyfans models have less bodily autonomy or more coercion than members of the U.S. (and probably any other) military.

        I encourage you to take some time to interrogate why you were so easily able to make this leap of logic, because to me it seems (consciously or not) motivated by moralized “disgust” of sex work rather than rational consideration.

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          You’re describing a problem that is common across “industries” as if it were unique to sex work, when it’s not.

          Yes, which is why I’m a socialist.

          Thing is we humans usually understand that sex ads a different dimension too things, since it is one of the most physically and emotionally intense things humans do. Sex crimes are consider more heinous than non-sex crimes, porn is considered more graphic than a regular romance film. Hence I don’t think we can pull this “muh sex work is just like coal mining” Schtick, everyone knows it’s kinda bullshit, people just have a hard time articulating why. Also, there’s important infrastructure that relies on coal, you can’t really boycott coal completely, you don’t really NEED to watch a video of a woman using a dildo on herself as fun as it may be.

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            You keep on making points that I know you must know don’t apply to capitalism in practice.

            There are so many jobs that don’t NEED to exist, and yet they do. And chances are that you’ll be coerced into doing at least one of those jobs in your life, especially if you’re poor.

            I guess I am also coming at things from the practical perspective of:

            There will always be sex workers. What can we do in practice to keep them safe?

            “Solutions” based on moralizing sex work as inherently “bad” end up being things like:

            Making directly providing sexual services illegal, which is “intended” to stop “sex trafficking” and punish “pimps” but in reality forces transactions underground and in the dark, facilitating sex trafficking and leading to victims being harassed and prosecuted far more than perpetrators.

            Sex workers of all kinds want sexual services decriminalized because they understand that criminalization makes everyone less safe:

            Providers of sexual services need to advertise on shady websites and meet in non-public spaces, rather than openly using Craigslist on their own terms. Is Craigslist a good example of a safety-focused platform for sexual services? Absolutely not! But providers of sexual services were much safer before Craigslist cracked down than they are, by far. Police regularly harass street workers, very much including sexual assault.

            Clients risk getting arrested, and are similarly forced into more dangerous situations.

            All people, especially poor and marginalized women, are less safe. The large underground market for sex work makes it much easier for humans to be trafficked. Children sexually abused (child sexual abuse absolutely must be criminalized, and CSAM a long with it). Undocumented immigrants trafficked for sex work, as well as non-sex work.

            I believe that the moralization and criminalization of sex work is absolutely fundamental to institutions like the Catholic Church being able to facilitate the sexual abuse / rape of so many children, for so long. And it’s not like its over, especially in fundamentalist Christian churches but also in all major institutions and parts of our society.

            So, I mostly care about the unique moralization and criminalization of sex work because I regularly listen to sex workers themselves talking about what needs to change to make them, and everyone else, safer.

            And they regularly use analogies to other physical and emotional labor.

            I’m not sure that I can defend that notion to you articulately, but I also very much don’t care.

            I support listening to and learning from marginalized people. I support the notion that marginalized people generally know what is best for them better than the random old white dudes that declare themselves to be experts without any real connection to, or respect for, those communities.

            I know that policies decisions led by those that are most vulnerable almost always end up helping everyone else too.

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              At no point did I advocate for the criminalization of sex work, I was arguing about the morality of consuming the content or using the services of sex workers.

              Making directly providing sexual services illegal, which is “intended” to stop “sex trafficking” and punish “pimps” but in reality forces transactions underground and in the dark, facilitating sex trafficking and leading to victims being harassed and prosecuted far more than perpetrators.

              This gets said a lot but I think it’s actually questionable how true it is. I’ll try and dig it up when I’m not at work but there was a study done in the Netherlands that found legalizing sex work actually increased human trafficking since it created semi-legal loop holes that traffickers could exploit to conduct their trade in a legal gray area. Also, pedophiles still exist under a legal sex work system so there’d still be a market for trafficking children.

              Personally I support the Nordic model, but not fully criminalization.

              Sex workers of all kinds want sexual services decriminalized

              Independently employed adult sex workers who enjoy being in the industry say this. And their opinions are valid. But they are a minority in the global sex trade. Most women being coerced into sex work would prefer it if the part of the industry they are in were to be completely abolished and I think it’s debatable if making legal sex work easier would actually be a boon to that cause or not.

              There are so many jobs that don’t NEED to exist, and yet they do

              Yes but a lot of those jobs utilize skills that society does need in order to function and ideally a socialist society could redirect those labors in a more socially healthy way. Nobody should work at fucking McDonalds but we will always need food prep workers until Star Trek replicators become a thing. That doesn’t really apply to most sex work though.

              If you genuinely enjoy doing it, go for it, no shame there, but if we’re discussing the morality of consuming the content it’s always going to be morally dubious cuz there’s no way to 100% confirm the person providing it is doing so totally consensually unless you have mind reading powers, or at least know a lot of intimate details about their personal life.

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      it’s not fully on your terms because if you refuse to provide sexual content for the only fans subscribers you stop getting paid which means that with the coercion of the market you stop having full and uncoerced control over your ability to refuse to give sexual consent to sharing provocative images of yourself

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        In the same vein are you not selling your right to consent of your bodily autonomy by being a laborer?

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          yes but your right to refuse to consent type out emails, or stack boxes is less intimate and personal than your control over your sexual consent

          it is for example perfectly socially acceptable to pressurize and even insist that people do various chores which would be deeply immoral in the case of sexual consent. For example your roommate could insist that as a condition of your living arrangement you have to clean the house (which is a bodily autonomy sacrifice as you have to use your body to work potentially against what you want) but they would be out of bounds if they insisted you do sexual favours for them

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            Onlyfans models generally have the option to apply for a job at McDonald’s instead.*

            People working for the military generally do not.

            * Ok, there’s actually more nuance here because a large percentage of sex workers are disabled, and lack of accessibility and general ableism prevents them from working most other jobs. But while that’s important to understand, it’s a different discussion.

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            While this is currently true, there isn’t any logic in one of these activities being treated significantly differently than the other, except where risks are concerned. If the sexual favors entail no additional risk (for instance, if they do not involve bodily contact, but merely putting in a show) then although society treats them differently, I would argue it shouldn’t.