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The original was posted on /r/australia by /u/Tabnam on 2023-11-06 09:39:20.

I’ve been mulling over whether to talk about this or not, and I decided it’s important to share what happened incase other men are in the same situation.

If you saw me you’d think I’m the last person who’d be sexually assaulted,. I’m 6’1 overweight, with an unkempt beard. The man who assaulted me was much smaller, yet he paralysed me in a way I’d never experienced. I was emasculated and intimidated, and felt degraded and embarrassed.

The man who assaulted me was an Uber driver delivering food, I was friendly with him so I think he thought I was hitting on him. However my friendless was not an invitation to be violated.

The reason I’m sharing this is because I want men to know that everyone you report this crime too will take it very seriously. Uber immediately refunded my order, cancelled the drivers account and had a team standing by to liaise with the police. The detective Sargent who was investigating the incident continually reiterated how important it was that I contacted police. If he was so cavalier with a man like me, what’s he going to be like with someone he can physically intimidate?

At every step the QLD police validated my concerns, treated me with dignity, and understood how difficult it was to make a statement. Ultimately there wasn’t enough evidence for prosecution, but he’s on the police’s radar if something happens again in the future. They offered continued counselling and emotional support through the whole process.

Men, if this happens to you, you’re not a coward for keeping it to yourself. Just know our system stands ready to punish the offenders and take your power back.

And, just personally, if any men need someone to talk to about this you can message me anytime.