• 420blazeit69 [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    8 months ago

    If someone writes as many replies (and as long of replies) as OP, they don’t get to pull the “I don’t owe you an explanation” card. They’ve already put in the time; writing 10,000 words and refusing to address hard questions in any of them just means you don’t have good answers.

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      8 months ago

      I guess that is my position

      This is their house, you came here, if they don’t have any good answers that’s fine because they don’t owe you any.

      I really think it would be more productive to focus your frustrations at the person who made the meme.

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        8 months ago

        If I go visit a friend and they act like an ass, the fact they’re acting like an ass doesn’t change because we’re at their house. If they talk all day, argue their points where convenient, then pull “I don’t owe you an explanation” when you try to make that a two-sided conversation, they’re just full of shit when they complain about how burdensome that is for them or whatever.

        And no one knows who made this meme, but the person posting it and defending it is right here.

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          8 months ago

          Well the more original OP of the post would be a better target at least.

          And all of what what you said is true, but in that analogy I would say my point you are free to not be this persons friend and not spend time in their house. You don’t have to convince them to explain themselves for your decision to not be their friend anymore to be valid.

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            8 months ago

            I can walk away, sure, but the point is their excuse of “I don’t owe you an explanation” in this context is a dishonest deflection tactic.

            If I lie to you, me saying “you’re free to talk to someone else” doesn’t change the fact that I lied to you.

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              8 months ago

              Again I agree with those, but that being that case doesn’t make demanding engagement and such into good behavior. At best, it is unproductive.