• calypsopub@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    I hear what you are saying, and I’ve been there with a friend who continues to make bad choices and then cry about the logical results of those choices. However, it’s not that difficult to just say, “That sounds rough. I’m sorry you’re going through that.” There is absolutely no need to be a judgemental asshole about it. Asking, “Are you looking for advice or sympathy?” is super easy. Listening is super easy. You have to ask yourself why you are getting butthurt if somebody doesn’t immediately take your advice or deal with life the exact same way you do.

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      11 months ago

      Why is “that’s rough buddy” take the place of offering help?

      Why is it getting butthurt about them not just doing it the way I’d do it when the subject was them getting mad at me for offering a solution at all?

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        11 months ago

        Clearly you are incapable of understanding despite multiple people trying to explain it to you.

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          11 months ago

          No, there’s just nothing worth understanding.

          As I said before, just because it’s a woman vs man thing, doesn’t mean the way the women are doing it is healthy, and worth respecting.

          We have toxic masculinity, we don’t need toxic feminity to explain why solutions to a problem are bad and you should just shut up and let the problem haver “feel valid” instead of doing anything that materially helps them.