• madcaesar@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    It’s silly that this reasonable comment is being mass downvoted. Things that permanently change people should be done carefully and with a lot of safety checks. We can all agree on that.

    For me all of this gets more important the younger the kid is.

    I have no bone in this fight, but people shouting like we have all of this 100% figured out is simply wrong.

    In fact what I’m seeing is, conservatives are anti trans, which is 100% wrong, so liberals are going 180 against them and claiming everyone should be transitioning.

    I was listening to a discussion where a gay man was saying that when he was young, he might have been pushed to transition because he was effeminate, when really he was just gay and is now a happy gay man.

    Anyway, I wish people would just come off the extremes and we bring in nuance and humility. Admitting that there is a lot about the human body and mind that we simply don’t understand yet.

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      11 months ago

      It’s being downvoted because it’s both a false equivalency and a strawman. I have never heard of anyone arguing that anyone with a hint of dysphoria should be immediately pushed to fully transition, except in extremely unreliable “news” sources with an anti-trans agenda.

      The current standard of care in medicine, especially for children, is already quite cautious. You can’t just show up at the doctor tomorrow and go under the knife the day after. It’s more likely to be too difficult, as you have to be fortunate enough to find a supportive medical team within traveling distance.

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      11 months ago

      Things that permanently change people should be done carefully and with a lot of safety checks. We can all agree on that.

      Everyone does, and they are being done with lots of checks. The above comment isn’t saying that though. They’re claiming that those checks aren’t being done, which is just not true. The rate people regret gender reassignment surgery is orders of magnitude less then many common surgeries, like knee replacement.

      liberals are going 180 against them and claiming everyone should be transitioning.

      I have never seen a person arguing for that. I have seen people arguing, and passing laws, for the opposite though.

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      11 months ago

      Mind if I ask where you heard liberals are jumping to that extreme? If you talk to random people on the street, I doubt you’d find more than maybe 1/1000 people expressing that view (and even that many would be surprisingly high).

      The right wing generally doesn’t want people to gain new freedoms. Conservatism, fascism, etc. are hierarchical ideologies. They require people to exist in a chain of command, where lower status people are controlled by those with higher status. One of the biggest tricks used to keep people playing this game is fear. Exaggerated or completely false claims are made and spread amongst their base. “The left wants to take all of your guns!” “The left wants you to worship satan!” “The gays want to …” etc.

      Generally, all the left wants is for everyone to get to live their life without arbitrary restrictions/judgement. If a news source is claiming that “the left” wants to control how someone lives their life, take it with a huge grain of salt. All too often, the bold claims coming from the right are distorted confessions. And if real people on the left are calling for a restriction, the intent is to apply it to everyone, themselves included, and there is a reasoned argument behind that conviction.

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        11 months ago

        I’m all for no restrictions, this whole discussion is mute if we’re talking about adults, I give zero fucks what people do with their bodies. I’m strictly speaking about children.

    • brygphilomena@lemmy.world
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      11 months ago

      Liberals arent going 180 and saying everyone should transition.

      Liberals are saying it’s none of your business and let people make their own life choices. If they want to transition, then let them. If they don’t, let them. If they change their mind later, let them.

      Everyone has to learn their are consequences to their choices and if they transition before they are sure, it’s their choice and their consequences to deal with.

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      11 months ago

      many of us probably would have been convinced to do so

      No one is being convinced of anything. People are being enabled to live as their true selves.

      I also think it’s a tool we reach for much more often than is necessary.

      There is no data to back this up, nor is there any reason to think it’s true. Trans people, even just considering the youngest generation, remain a very small percentage of the general population.

      Giving gender affirming care to all people with gender or body dysphoria is like giving high dose Adderall to all people who have trouble paying attention in history class. It’s the nuclear option, and you’re using it on someone who may not even have adhd, or may not require such a strong intervention.

      Any medical treatment should not be prescribed without a doctor’s due consideration. Gender affirming care, at any age, is no different. There is not a nuclear option available or used for minors expressing they want gender affirming care.

      I know everyone hates this word, but starting with more conservative treatments first is the norm throughout healthcare for exactly this reason. We’ve made an exception for transgender people for political reasons, not scientific ones.

      No such exception has been made, certainly not for trans kids.

      So, that’s why the comment has some downvotes. And probably should have more. The comment isn’t a differing opinion; it’s factually incorrect.

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      11 months ago

      True, I don’t know any trans people directly, but i certainly wonder if getting the transition is good for them. If i can’t see people discuss both points of view because it’s “transphobic”, i’m forced to draw my own conclusions.

      Just to be 100% clear, I am gay and have had my fair share of biggotry, so i know what it’s like. But the fact that i need this disclaimer is concerning to me. I believe that overprotective censorship is responsible for a lot problems we have in 2023. People cannot learn if they cannot ask questions without being told they are evil.

      • madcaesar@lemmy.world
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        11 months ago

        That was pretty much my point. I’m 100% for bodily autonomy and freedom, but when it comes to children can we just take a minute to discuss things like adults without being labeled one thing or another.