Learned this trick a while ago to tell the difference: don’t interrupt a person who you might think is being critical. just let them run on for a while and tap out for a bit.
If that other person comes off like they are harassing and verbally abusing when no one is being defensive to them it becomes pretty clear they are the toxic bully.
If they sound concerned and you not replying to it makes you look and sound dismissive, you’re the problem.
That said:
insulted too easily
Tends to be what an insecure toxic person says when people stop replying to their lashings.
Either the family is terrible or you get insulted too easily
Learned this trick a while ago to tell the difference: don’t interrupt a person who you might think is being critical. just let them run on for a while and tap out for a bit.
If that other person comes off like they are harassing and verbally abusing when no one is being defensive to them it becomes pretty clear they are the toxic bully.
If they sound concerned and you not replying to it makes you look and sound dismissive, you’re the problem.
That said:
Tends to be what an insecure toxic person says when people stop replying to their lashings.
I was also gonna say both but then I realized there’s the victim shaming that makes people stay with toxic families!
Probably both