Like a girl
From the beginning, girls and boys
Are raised in wildly different ways:
We’re meant to play with different toys,
We’re shamed or praised for equal traits.
Though I’ve been groomed to be a man,
Deep down, our nature can’t be changed.
They hope I’m careless and brave,
and aggressive and bold,
and well-spoken and suave,
and detached, even cold.
But I’m sensitive and frail.
I’m not an alpha male.
Whenever I try it, I hopelessly fail.
Girls have plenty they can wear
Cute or stylish – it’s all there!
A fine dress, and heads are turned;
A cute skirt, their frown’s adjourned.
The gray manhood can’t compare,
And it frankly isn’t fair…
I can’t think of a plan
For what’s bound to unfurl.
They’re expecting a man,
Yet I think like a girl.
Note: I’ve written this poem before realizing I’m a trans woman. I have since learned there’s nothing wrong with manhood – the problem was that I’m not a man, myself.
– Lady Scarecrow
Thank you. When I wrote this poem, I did it out of frustration because everyone was asking me to be something I wasn’t. Much like you, I was still figuring things out. Nowadays I have a much clearer view – not only of who I am, but also of gender as a whole. I absolutely agree with you, gender roles are oppressive and absurd. I believe they should be abolished. Gender identity, on the other hand, is innate to us all, even if most people (i.e. cis people) don’t even realize they have one. But cis or trans, AMAB people should be allowed to wear dresses and paint their nails if they want to. Navigating this needlessly cruel and restrictive system is hard to us all.
Anyways, good luck to you, and stay safe.