So, I’m just assuming we’ve all seen the discussions about the bear.
Personally I feel that this is an opportunity for everyone to stop and think a little about it.
The knee-jerk reaction from many men seems to be something along the lines of “You would choose a dangerous animal over me? That makes me feel bad about myself.” which results in endless comments of the “Akchully… according to Bayes theorem you are much more likely to…” kind.
It should be clear by now that it doesn’t lead to good places.
Maybe, and I’m open to being wrong, but maybe the real message is women saying: “We are scared of unknown men.”
Then, if that is the message intended, what do we do next? Maybe the best thing is just to listen. To ask questions. What have you experienced to make you feel that way?
I firmly believe that the empathy we give lays a foundation for other people being willing to have empathy for the things we try to communicate.
It doesn’t mean we should feel bad about ourselves, but just to recognize that someone is trying to say something, and it’s not a technical discussion about bears.
What do you think?
I know more than one of these men that women would rather not take a chance with… The JR/AT/JP/TradWife/dudebro types. When I asked my girlfriend about the choices, she chose ‘bear’ immediately, and specifically called out someone we knew, saying, “Would YOU want me to encounter <dudebro> in the forest if I didn’t know him?” And she was right – I’d prefer she choose the bear…
And that’s tragically fucking sad that someone I know is so far down the ‘dudebro’ rabbit hole that I wouldn’t leave my GF alone with him in a compromised position.
Locker rooms have taught me a sizeable percent of men are literal monsters. Like maybe 1 in 10, if even a fraction of the shit I over hear is true.