• queermunist she/her@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    Survivorship bias.

    The people who went through hard times and came out the other side are the ones that are still alive. Millions don’t. They just die, either because the literally can’t afford to live or because they decide to make it quick with a gun or an overdose. You’re discounting all the many many people who have died and just focusing on the lucky ones.

    Also? I need to make something clear.

    I don’t want to die I don’t want to die fuck fuck fuck I don’t want to die! Stop fucking telling me to seek therapy for depression, I’m not depressed I’m absolutely terrified!

    You think you’re giving some kind of sage advice from personal experience, but all I hear is “your problems aren’t a big deal, I would know, so suck it up buttercup!” It’s degrading, demeaning, and infuriating! You’re basically telling me I’m a stupid child that doesn’t know how good I have it and hasn’t grown up enough to overcome her problems with hard work and gumption.

    I am a fully grown adult and I know how hopeless my life is. I can’t save money, don’t you fucking dare tell me I can, I’ve done my finances and went over the numbers enough times to know its absolutely hopeless. Therapy isn’t going to make the numbers different, so stop dismissing my legitimate material fears. Stop gaslighting me and telling me my problems aren’t real.

    You are a bad person.