I’m struggling to figure out how to make friends without having Instagram or any other social media. I have discord but don’t use it much. I see all my acquaintances in discord channels and sharing Instagram posts and stuff. It’s already hard for me to make friends, but I feel like not having any of the traditional social media means I’m not included in any of that stuff.

Do you just accept that Instagram and shit are the way people interact and use it?

  • Today@lemmy.world
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    17 days ago

    Do you mean meeting people? Or feeling like you’re supposed to share things on social media as part of a friend group or else you’re left out of things?

    If you mean where to meet people, go anywhere a few times and you’ll start to see the same people - like a dog park or walking trails; take a class or join an activity you like through your local parks and rec- i was just looking for a beginning welding class; in my area there’s a sports and social club that does bowling leagues, beer pong tournaments, kickball games, etc. and several local game shops do board game nights.

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      17 days ago

      I mean becoming more than acquaintances. And especially just having people to talk to at random times without pressure of 1 on 1 texting or phone calls. Like just sharing stupid memes and being able to asynchronous chat and get to know people.

      I guess what I want is to get close with people and not just be acquaintances. Especially at night

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        17 days ago

        It’s a process. Are there any acquaintances that you’re interested in befriending? Someone that shares your interests enough that you could invite them to something? I’ve become friendlier with a couple of co-workers by asking about restaurants in their neighborhood, which led to them saying, “let me know when you go and I’ll meet you there.”

        I’m the mean time, you can share dumb stuff here and we will laugh with you.