• AwkwardLookMonkeyPuppet@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    There’s definitely a distinction. There are plenty of times when someone is capable of helping, but chooses not to. Their choice not to help doesn’t make them unable, it makes them unwilling. The two are not the same.

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      3 months ago

      This is more my commentary. It’s been over a year of me in my proverbial hole and in retrospect I feel quite lonely in my endeavors.

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        3 months ago

        Sorry to hear that, dude. IDK your age, but a lot of times life gets a lot easier when you get a little older. Loneliness is a pandemic in modern society. People feel lonelier than ever before, according to multiple surveys. I did too, after I moved across the country. What really helped was picking up outside hobbies, that eventually led to picking up like-minded acquaintances, and a few friends. The cool thing about meeting people while pursuing hobbies is that they’re active people, and it’s a lot easier to set up reoccurring plans to hang out.

        To your overall point, when I was a kid my Mom would not allow me to say “I can’t”, it was a forbidden phrase in our household. If I ever said it, she forced me to figure out how I could. I disliked it back then because I was mostly just whinging, but it was a valuable life lesson that has benefitted me a lot, especially in early adulthood when things felt so impossible.