“you see? The husband is serving the wife by having final say on family decisions, and money… and politics really if you think about it. Plus you know, women get emotional and it’s good for a man to serve her with his level head… And she can really help him the most by making sure she’s still physically appealing after all the time with the babies and the house… nothing worse than a man made to go astray because his wife ‘let herself go’ instead of stopping his eyes from wandering…”
All, sadly, direct quotes I’ve heard in church (British charismatic evangelical)
I had to take a step back and reflect that being so used to this shit is not normal. It should do more than make me shrug and go “The usual crap, eh?” I often forget just how deep the damage goes that church has left me with, but moments like this where blatant sexism doesn’t really register emotionally make it clear how, even after all these years, my intuition of “normal” is still borked.
“you see? The husband is serving the wife by having final say on family decisions, and money… and politics really if you think about it. Plus you know, women get emotional and it’s good for a man to serve her with his level head… And she can really help him the most by making sure she’s still physically appealing after all the time with the babies and the house… nothing worse than a man made to go astray because his wife ‘let herself go’ instead of stopping his eyes from wandering…”
All, sadly, direct quotes I’ve heard in church (British charismatic evangelical)
You know what fucked me up?
The fact that my reaction here was “Well, duh.”
I had to take a step back and reflect that being so used to this shit is not normal. It should do more than make me shrug and go “The usual crap, eh?” I often forget just how deep the damage goes that church has left me with, but moments like this where blatant sexism doesn’t really register emotionally make it clear how, even after all these years, my intuition of “normal” is still borked.