• Taleya@aussie.zone
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    4 hours ago

    Ironically, you’re treating dating like a strategy game. Don’t.

    If you have to lie about who you are, you’re gonna get a shit deal

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      4 hours ago

      I don’t lie about who I am, i just put forward my more interesting qualities before admiting i play 2 hours of minecraft a day. I also don’t participate in online dating.

      I’d also rather a girl recomend we go ice fishing together as a date than play a game online as a date, so i often put forward my hobbies that are easier to do with other people, like mountain biking or going to a rock climbing gym in hopes of finding some common interests we can share in person.

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        2 hours ago

        Or you could be me, many hobbies but due to crippling ADHD I’m the only one who cares about them and they don’t all jive well with each other’s stereotypical “group” (like say I enjoy running but also enjoy unhealthy eating, for example). Every woman could VERY easily find a hobby of mine they think is neat, AND one they think is “bad,” and maybe even one we share, but I contain too many multitudes of unfinished thoughts and products to judge me on the one mentioned when put on the spot (cause that’s probably just the project I paused today.)

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        3 hours ago

        Embellishing? Its still lieing to imply you mostly do broadly interesting things when you actually play minecraft for two hours a day.

        I play rocket league for a few hours a day and I would not be shy to mention that quickly. The person you replied to is right, if you put forward yourself honestly then you might actually find someone who likes you. Girls play minecraft too, in case you weren’t aware.

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          I’m not embellishing anything. Ice fishing is a hobby I am more interested in and enjoy more than gaming. I have more good stories about ice fishing than I do about gaming. I also find it leaves more potential to further the conversation. Maybe she likes to fish on a boat in the summer, or maybe they have experiences from their childhood ice fishing they want to share.

          I am a very outdoors person and I’d like my partner to be the same, so when I meet a potential partner, i like to start by finding out if they have any outdoor passions.