After reading @darkcalling@lemmygrad.ml and what they said, I’ve said the following below in a reply to them (let me know if I got the pronouns right; I myself am queer and take the correct way to refer to someone seriously):

Yeah, I was apart of the mod team, but they just betrayed me, and barely listened to me. There was one that seemed to hate me and they accused me of doxxing someone when I accidentally revealed, but quickly deleted, the state that they were living in. Keep in mind that I was informed multiple times that that’s not doxxing and that doxxing would involve, say, the address, first and last name, town, family members, etc., etc., etc. I apologized multiple times, they said I didn’t, and that was the end of it, and later, I was banned.

My issue was that they didn’t resolve this till months afterward. I would’ve preferred that they just banned me right there and then when I made the mistake rather than just let six months pass after the fact or at least give enact some sort of punishment then. But if they were going to let a mod like me get away with it, one they treated rudely from the get-go, then maybe they shouldn’t have been mods and admins to begin with…

Oh yeah, and, unfortunately, “dunk culture” was a real issue, but the mods barely did anything until later and by that point it just rankled people, rightly, for how they handled it.

They weren’t good administrators. They allowed things to pass for people or issues until they got popular in the moment (usually, this meant that enough people at the time were there and could get others to participate in making a stink about it at that point in time so the popularity of such a thing was always dubious), but barely did anything for the little gal, so to speak. They only did stuff if the community made a big ruckus over it. I saw many people bullied over trifling shit. And many left in my time as mod and afterward, when I was still a member.

I liked Carcosa, but she (I hope I got the pronouns right, I will correct if need be) just listened to others, and deferred to others. You know those leaders sometimes that just defer to their subordinates do or say? That was Carcosa and it showed. She just repeated what others told her.

I liked Othello and we were good friends, but they were barely listened to either by the other mods, and one of the mods in the inner circle shot down any proposals that didn’t jive with the rest of the mods, who weren’t BIPOC. And Othello was BIPOC like me. Go figure.

Many gave “cease and desist” orders but it was barely used or enforced so people got badgered and left.