Today is my 5-year anniversary with my husband, we were planning on going on a camping trip to celebrate. He asked today if it was ok to cancel because a bad tooth had been causing him pain all last night. After talking about their refund policy, I told him it was ok to cancel if he was worried about it. We have a dentist appointment scheduled for him, but we couldn’t get in before the trip.

He wants to make it up to me by taking me out to dinner at our favorite restaurant this weekend, and I feel bad for feeling a little disappointed. Its a nice restaurant, don’t get me wrong, but I wanted to do something special or new for our 5-year. I want to ask to do something this weekend, but don’t know what to ask for so last minute. So now I’m here asking if anyone has any ideas on what to do to celebrate, or if I should just keep my disappointment to myself? What would you do?

  • Veraticus@lib.lgbt
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    1 year ago

    Given your post, it sounds like the cancellation isn’t actually okay with you, and I would tell him so.

    • Plus_a_Grain_of_Salt@beehaw.orgOP
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      1 year ago

      I do want to go, but I don’t want him to suffer for it, it’s not worth that. I’d rather cancel to make him comfortable. For me it’s more about doing something special to celebrate the milestone, it feels like our first big anniversary being the 5th, but that’s probably just me holding on to some weird tradition. I’m thinking about making a nice dinner with him (or maybe for him if he’s still in pain). He’s always been the planner in our relationship, so I really want to do something for him to show him that I appreciate him.