You can’t convince anyone by explaining the facts. Psychologist Adam MASTROIANNI wrote an insightful and entertaining piece about why that’s the case.
We can’t de-convert our family and friends, just like they can’t re-convert us. Missionary work is a waste of time, except for the experience of the missionary. And hypocrisy in leaders is what will destroy the Church.
Our deeply-held beliefs, in the castle’s keep (in the author’s analogy) remind me of this XKCD: https://xkcd.com/2347/ represented by the “random package” near the bottom.
This is fascinating! It’s weird to think about how many times I completely ignored someone attempting to dump a bucket of wisdom about the Church’s lies, only to then think I would somehow be better at that bucket-dumping once I was the one trying to tell people the Church is false.