• UpperBroccoli@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    18 days ago

    Yeah sometimes you must fight. Just not them, but yourself. To become better, to become what they deserve and to match what they give you.

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      17 days ago

      That approach works well until you run into somebody that isn’t doing the same. Once that happens it’s just a recipe for being gaslit that you’re not doing enough.

      Finding the balance between what you need to give and what you should demand isn’t easy, but it certainly isn’t this one-sided.

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        17 days ago

        That’s why commitment is the better word than fighting. In get the intent of the original statement and would agree, but its sort of a bumper sticker version of reality (to be fair, internet memes are essentially that).

        To your point, both people need to view relationships in the same manner and value, and then commit to it. That’s where the power is. And no matter what, you know neither of you is giving up and leaving. Its foundational to everything.