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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/bug_muffin on 2023-09-04 21:26:22.
My best friend is very punctual, but her husband is not. I invited them over to breakfast this morning, told them to come around 10:30. Husband called me at 10:22 asking if it was OK if he goes on a run before he comes. I told him that was fine, I was just leaving the gym anyway, so he had some time.
I texted the husband around noon asking if he could bring a couple of eggs (no response). I texted my friend a few minutes later asking for a status report. She said he was going to be a while, so I hopped on my bike and rode to the grocery store.
I got back to my place at 1:07 and decided to cancel the meal, even though I prepped everything and don’t actually have other plans today. I wasn’t in the mood to hang out with them because I felt disrespected. Side note, this is not the first time he has done this. He’s even joked to me about how funny it is to make people late.
As I was texting them to cancel, I saw them pull up. I just chuckled and told them to go home, breakfast was canceled.
I got a long angry text from the husband about how I made my friend cry, how they canceled plans with her brother today to hang out with me, and that I’m the AH because I told him he had time to go for a run. He said me turning them away was disrespectful and he does not want to be associated with me anymore. I texted my friend to apologize to her, and she has not responded.
AITA?
Yes and no. You allowed him to go on his run, so punctuality wasn’t going to happen and you knew it. You also had history with him.
That being said, three hours is not late; it’s completely disrespectful.