Context: I currently have a back injury and as such my sleep schedule has been destroyed. There are days that I simply cannot get comfortable no matter where I sit/lie.
The other night I was restless and couldn’t get comfortable but was feeling tired. I wanted to brew myself a cup of tea but as luck would have it we had run out of fill-able tea bags. I pulled out the metal tea infusers and found that due to an improper cleaning at last use and who knows how long they had been sitting idle they were absolutely disgusting. Some had mold spots and one appeared to be rusting (how aluminum rusts I don’t know).
I REALLY wanted my tea so I busted out my cleaning tools and got to work. She woke up to use the restroom and heard me in the kitchen and made it a point to call me out for being weird and that no one in their right mind would be doing what I was doing.
Is that a fair assessment? I only spent about 50 minutes cleaning them.
It is not typical, expected behavior by most peoples’ standards, partly because the majority of people at that time of night are sleeping.
You’d be hard pressed to find support for this as being normal behavior. What’s important is whether or not normal matters? If it’s considered criticism, why? Is she being awoken by your behavior? If so, then that’s probably warranted. Otherwise, if it’s just a characterization of what you’re doing, so what?
Tbh, if it was my partner doing it, I can see myself saying that even if it didn’t cause me to wake up. Only, its not to criticise, but just to tease them.
Yeah, maybe she meant it as in OP should visit the doctor another time. But it’s also quite possible, she simply couldn’t make the link that OP is awake due to pain.