So as my post says I’m pretty new to the bdsm world. I took this test when my partner first introduced it to me. She is a brat, princess, sub. Being a hard dom i felt didn’t come natural and felt awkward with it. She told me im more of a soft dom which is nice because thats what she likes and feels more like me.

I would like more guidance on soft doms and rigging. The rigging i do know i would say isn’t safe to use her since it’s used to detain prisoners. We do communicate and there is after care just sometimes i feel a bit lost.

  • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.com
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    10 months ago

    You want to tie her? Or just think you have to? Or she wants that specifically?

    You don’t need to do anything you find a turn-off, think more about ways you DO like to be in control, and leverage that. Get her to do the things you need, too. You need to enjoy it for the whole dynamic to work.

    Talk about it a lot when you aren’t in bed. A lot. More than you think.

    • xain52 @lemmy.worldOP
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      10 months ago

      Thanks for the response. I like to tie and she has told me that its something that she likes sometimes although we havent tried yet. As for the dom part i feel thats more of the mental aspect of i like to do and she has stated that she enjoys it because i am creative. I did give her a task of writing down things i do that she likes or dislikes and how she feels in a notebook that she is to keep with her at all times. I feel that it will help me learn more about her as well a help her with her confidence when asked what she likes since she has difficulties with that.