I know this is an old post by now, but I’ve been away from lemmynsfw for a while and just now catching up. Wanted to thank you for this - it’s really interesting and some good info for anyone else maybe trying to follow in your footsteps. I can only imagine the devious plans you have in mind…

First off, a good edging like this is one of the greatest things ever - such a wonderful combination of pleasure and frustration, it’s mind-blowing.

Second, I find the idea of handing over real ownership of my cock to someone else, like you describe in your last paragraph, to be one of the hottest fantasies out there. For me, one of the fantasies along those lines that often goes through my mind is not the idea of permanent chastity (in the sense of never being unlocked, though sure that can be a hot fantasy at times), but the idea of never touching my own penis. Imagine if you were to tell Luke that he’ll be unlocked from time to time, you’ll edge him, occasionally you might even fuck or suck him if you feel like it, and he might even get the occasional orgasm. But only you get to touch that dick when it’s out of the cage. That he’ll never actually touch his own penis again because it’s yours and you don’t want anyone else playing with it!

(Of course you’re the one in charge and you can always change your mind, but imagine what a mind-fuck that would be for him)

Thanks for posting!

I also have a cage that forces my penis down, and it’s true that there’s a bit of a mindfuck in it. But seriously, damn you’re hot, and Luke is lucky to be able to experience that. I’m very jealous!

Damn, I’d love for that to be me

Oh man, I’m typically way more into femdom than maledom, but that was fucking HOT!

Fantastic ruin, and love reading your thoughts and musings on it. Just a thought, on the point about deciding on a whim what you are going to do vs. having a release schedule - aside from the boredom factor (which is definitely real), I’ve read some dommes also say that release schedules and unlock dates and stuff take away their power in the situation. That if they’re supposed to be in charge, then it should be entirely their decision, rather than them being slave to a calendar. As a sub, that resonates with me as well. Does that enter your thinking at all?

Congratulations and good work!

I love how you manage to be both generous and cruel at the same time with this sort of tease! I’m straining against my own cage watching, and I can only imagine the subspace Luke was in during this. I can’t even tell you how much I enjoy following along with your story.

Speaking to your last paragraph - as an outsider looking in, only getting a tiny glimpse of your lives, it seems like what you have with Luke is far more special than anything someone would get from a one-removedht stand or short fling, regardless of what was in where or which sexual positions were attempted.

Using the Sync app (on Android anyway), you can hit the settings button while browsing posts, and under settings there’s an option right there to hide read posts.

On the web, if you click on your username in the top right and go to settings, there is an option “show read posts”. By default I think this is turned on - uncheck the box to turn it off. For a while, this wasn’t working, but it seems to have been fixed along the way.

Despite him getting a ruined orgasm, I still think you won the bet. Bragging rights, for sure! Plus, knowing you have that power over him, and now having swallowed his cum in front of you like that, will just make him that much more submissive to you I think.

You’re a wonderful domme and a great storyteller. Thank you for sharing your adventures with us.

Oh that’s really a bummer :-(

What about making a free onlyfans or fansly where someone could “tip” to donate? You wouldn’t have to actually put up any content.

Hahaha! I have used this username (here and on reddit) for years, and you are the first person to call that out. Excellent!

First and foremost - thank you for everything you do running lemmynsfw. You’re doing an amazing job and I, for one, appreciate it tremendously.

Re: downvotes, I still believe that downvotes open only to community members is the way to go, but I appreciate you’re doing what you feel is best and if you think it’s genuinely improving things to turn them off entirely, you do what you need to do. I’m willing to be convinced, I truly am, but I haven’t been yet. That said, I found a workaround to my biggest problem with it - hiding read posts without voting - so I don’t have to upvote things I don’t like just to make them go away. With that in place, I can live with it. At the end of the day, I just want to be able to browse without seeing the same posts more than once.

Re: donations, it’s truly a shame that you haven’t been able to set something up. I was here right at the beginning, and I was a very early donor, because I truly believe that Lemmy needs a dedicated place for NSFW content, I want lemmynsfw (and Lemmy as a whole) to succeed, and I understand how much it costs to host such a place. So I’d be very happy to donate again if you can find a channel. That said, I don’t want to have to do so using some sort of cryptocurrency. Not only because, like Lemmy itself, it’s not quite there yet in terms of usability, but also because (unlike Lemmy), at the end of the day I find the entire crypto world to be very scammy and shady, rampant with bad actors. Not to mention that Trocador app you linked to elsewhere doesn’t seem to handle setting up monthly recurring donations, which is what I’d like to do.

My suggestion would be to investigate Epoch as a payment processor. I have joined multiple porn sites in the past, and they’ve all used Epoch for their billing, and at least I personally have never had a problem. They seem on the up-and-up to me (but again, I said investigate - please do your own due diligence). What I don’t know is if they handle one-time donations, or if they just do monthly billing.

Re: Gallery, I’ll be honest I’m not that interested in new UI’s for Lemmy. The default UI + TamperMonkey scripts (LemmyTools + Lemmy Keyboard Navigation) work great for me and pretty much reproduce old.reddit on PC, and Sync took me all of 2 or 3 days to adjust to on Android and now I’m cool with it. I think it’s wonderful you want to keep contributing to the Lemmy universe, and it’s awesome you found someone to help, but just speaking for myself, I’d view this one as pretty low priority.

Once again, thank you. You invest so much time and energy here it’s crazy. Hope you get the donation channel issue worked out very soon, so I can start contributing again.

As long as the photo is appropriate (on topic) for the community, I have no issue with it. This site needs more content; now is not the time to start nitpicking about it.

I hope it’s ok to mention this here (if not let me know and I’ll delete), but I’m a man currently locked in chastity.

Jan 17 - 1 ruined while caged

I was going to write a long point-by-point refutation of your post, but in the end it boiled down to this:

Dude, blame capitalism for pushing people to sell their bodies for money. If you really care about the degradation of women in porn, devote your time and money to anti-capitalist causes, from universal health care to supporting living minimum wages rather than poverty-level minimum wages, from universal basic income to building guillotines for billionaires. Those things will do far more to help women than trying to blame individual porn stars for the degradation of women and making them somehow responsible for working for women’s equality. At best they are making content that they personally enjoy and at worst they are doing what they need to pay the bills. It’s capitalism that drives young women to get into porn who don’t really want to be there or don’t have the maturity to be there and as a result get taken advantage of.

And stop gatekeeping what people like in the bedroom. Some people like slow sensual lovemaking. Some people like to be hurt and degraded. Some people like whips, chains, and leather. Some people just want missionary with the lights off. It’s all good, and if you don’t like it don’t watch it.

Gladly!

There’s nothing I enjoy more than licking pussy. Sit on my face and I’m in heaven!

So glad to see you back! Don’t worry about posting too much - lemmy is still getting off the ground and this place needs people like you to come and post here to help the community be active. And your stories and videos are top-tier. Love seeing how you play with Luke, and getting your thoughts on how much you enjoy it and how it messes with his head.

I agree with @Biapathy@lemmynsfw.com that after a prolonged denial, it takes more than one full orgasm to fully reset. The horniness lessens, sure, for a little bit (or not much at all if you ruin it), but it doesn’t go away.

Anyone else think she looks like a young Catherine Zeta Jones?