I am going to go full gender understander here. Trans men are men and as such get the good with the bad. Enjoy the lifelong masculine urge to be a dumbass like the rest of us. Is it unintentionally hostile to our comrades to treat them as full members of our broken male species? As a cis man I am not offended by it. Should not it be the same for all men? I get it would be slightly more comfortable to deny them that flavor of manhood but it feels patronizing. Like, they have to watch an old episode of “The man show” and feel despair same as I do.
Nah, if I am being trash let me know. I’d rather not be trash if I can help it. I do have an instinct to it.
Maybe I am conflating some things. I have known men in life to go through a phase where they wanted to “be a real man” and whatever came next was always bad. So maybe I am projecting that onto a situation to which it doesn’t apply.
I know personally I have a hard time sythizing the ideas of gender abolition and that gender identity is very important to some people. I know that perhaps abnormally so I never felt my gender identity was important so this could just be a masculine lack of empathy on my part.