Not all effort is visible. The biggest effort a person makes is getting to the psychological position where they are able to understand what is happening , understand themselves and start to look for ways to make change.

If they get angry when they are offered help or helped then it’s a game and then I would outright stop. If they are abusive then I would stop.

Trouble is their kid doesnt listen to them

oh god, that’s because the kid is hearing disrespectful talk and seeing disrespectful behaviour between his parents . 😖

personally I wouldn’t mind whinging, it’s just a coping mechanism

it’s when they are also abusive to me or are angry when offered assistance that i nope out, iow, is it real or is it a game, is it tragedy or a personality disorder

the woman sounds isolated and in need of an ear, would benefit from joining a mom’s group

nom nom thank you

Here’s the dinner report after the husband’s folks came for dinner.

So it mostly went to plan. After dinner and I had cleaned up I sat down to do some needle work but bro was bored and he’d been very sick, just came out of hospital, so I took pity on him. After he insulted me just a little and I pushed back a little I asked him if he reads audiobooks, as that may be an easy way for him to do an interesting activity. He said they always send him to sleep. My radar immediately pinged real loud, I’m always on the alert for when he or others talk about their experience in cults. I went on to explain that the books he was listening to were designed to relax him and even send to him sleep. I explained how the tapes were relaxing, why the makers of the tapes did that and how those books differ to regular audio recordings of regular novels and nonfiction books. I never once used a value judgement or trigger word. I never mentioned the cult nor any people in the cult, I kept it fact based and impersonal. He listened with interest and very intently.

I’m a very good cult deprogrammer.

Green jasmine tea and toast please. Also a handful of gummy vitamins to replace all the vitamins lost while I have been on pain meds for so long.

Today’s dream was the big house where I grew up my first six years. It was a big beautiful house divided into large apartments with stained glass and staircases and carved stone. My first memories are from there and they were happy memories of music and the young musicians who lived there

Happy New Year 🎉

Good Morning everyone

Wasn’t there a disastrous fire that killed dozens in a semi official squat warehouse in California. It’s just a dangerous idea to put people in abandoned buildings

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ghost_Ship_warehouse_fire

Good night, sweet dreams. 💟

Listening the The Hobbit ost, every tune evokes images 😄

😿

I am grateful Bill and Ted are so cute and fun to have around.

That is so cool. 🦖

Who else thinks Sheila could sell her monte carlos down at Vic market? They look that good

Please Goonie, can I have some more roast chicken

curry pies have been reheated

Cool. I like that one too. :)

Which one? I rather like OHMSS.