Disaffected Scorpio

I need to update my username. I’m more Disaffected Scorpio or Disgruntled Scorpio.

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Cake day: February 17th, 2025

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  • I too had to completely rebuild my friend network after my divorce. It was and still is to some degree an ongoing issue. I also had support from my mother. All of my close friends either ghosted me or literally took the side of my exw. Seeing people I knew for a decade or more walk away or take the side of my ex was humiliating and hurtful.

    My ex was an expert on abuse. She was a counselor and therapist herself. Knew all the tricks.

    That was 15 years ago. The first year is hard. After that, it gets better because you will focus on yourself, physically and mentally. And you’ll be careful about future people, friendly but cautious, maybe wary. Try to remember who you were before marriage. The second year will be better, healthier. You’ll still have moments of grief and sadness and loss but you’ll be OK. It’ll give you time to regain ownership over yourself.

    In time, you’ll be good, maybe 33M, and thankful you don’t have a cheating abusive person in your life to steal more years from you. You got this.








  • As a Kentucky resident, having Andy as governor is about the only good thing happening in this state.

    KYGOP has a veto-proof majority which they have used often to overturn Andy’s veto. The Republicans in the state are the same as everywhere else, unfortunately.

    I have learned from direct contact our legislators don’t really do homework on issues. No surprise. They basically work off ‘word of mouth’ and confirmation bias and news clippings to decide how they think.

    Anecdote: the legislature passed an anti-tenure bill last week. The bill was sponsored by a rep whose son was upset his professor had stale notes. The rep decided to create a bill to mandate all public state unis evaluate all faculty every 4 years. This is a good idea. However, all state unis already perform YEARLY performance evaluations even after tenure. Most, if not all of the reps, had never even bothered to checked current university policies; “I never really thought to check. I just assumed since Rep X wrote legislation to mandate evaluations there were no evaluations.” And then there was testimony to confirm in fact evals exist. And yet it made no difference even after evidence was presented evals exist.

    Andy vetoed the tenure review bill but it will probably be overturned. The bill gives every uni board the power to remove the president and any faculty person, with cause. No criteria for cause, really, so it is possible cause could be “The faculty member made comments at a workshop about DEI which are not compatible with the university mission and thus the university has separated itself from the individual” which is their way of saying “fired.”

    Great governor who vetoed Conversion Therapy and anti-DEI and tenure review. Conversion Therapy was overturned by the Republicans. We’ll see about the other two by Friday.