This is a very weird post.

First of all, no, don’t “settle” for anyone. Relationships should be built on honesty and mutual respect. If you are settling, it means you don’t respect her. And since she would almost certainly break things off with you if you told her you are “settling”, you probably won’t tell her, which is dishonest.

But based on your post, it doesnt seem like you find anything unsatisfactory about her personality. Instead, you are concerned that she is just after your money. Maybe she is. Maybe she isn’t. You find out by getting to know her. This takes more than 2 weeks. It takes years. Go spend 2 years with her to see who she actually is. That’s the point of dating. Seeing someone for 2 weeks and then thinking of marriage is crazy talk.

Finally, if you marry her, just get a prenup. These exist for a reason. Then she can’t divorce you and take your money.

But you can start by assuming women mostly don’t bring things up unless they’re really bad, because they put themselves at risk by doing so.

Ideally I wouldn’t assume anything based on such broad generalities. I would base my understanding on my understanding of the person making the claim. If the woman making the claim has shown tendencies in the past of lying and starting drama, I will likely do nothing, and will sort of quietly wander away to find another conversation because I don’t want to be involved in whatever shit she is starting now. Though I will also probably never be present for this conversation, since I probably would have removed this person from my life a long time ago and would actively avoid interacting with them, because it is an unpleasant experience. If I know the woman to generally be trustworthy and straightforward, I will say “wow, that sucks, let me know if I can do anything to help you feel better”.

I’ve known several women who confessed to me that they’d been sexually assaulted in the past. My response, more or less, was “wow, I’m sorry that happened to you. Let me know if you want to talk about it more, or if there is anything I can do to help.” And that is the extent of what I can do, since I have no idea who the people who assaulted them are. It’s not like I can just bust down some random guy’s door and beat him up.

And you can (continue to) shut down the more “minor” conversational shit that normalizes and perpetuates that mindset.

Such as…? I honestly have no idea what you are talking about. I assume you are talking about the conversations where guys say things like “no means yes, yes means anal” - which, again, I have never, ever been involved in. Like, ever. I don’t know who these people are or where they hang out. I infer they exist based on second hand accounts if others. But they seem to not like me, and don’t invite me to their parties.

When my male friends and I talk about women, our conversations usually go: ugh, why don’t girls like me?; ugh, my girlfriend is being distant and standoffish; ugh, my girlfriend broke up with me. I’ve never had a friend speak poorly of women in general, say they “deserve” anything as a group, or anything like that.

So, again, this seems like a big case of “I can’t do anything about this, so I’m not going to worry about it.”

I believe nutrition is quite simple: Eat real food. That will get you 90% of the way there, if you are an average person who just wants to be healthy.

Your partner needs to see a doctor about their inability to sleep soundly through the night. That’s really about it.

Your man

This is funny, because the behaviors OP is describing sound a lot more like the behaviors of a woman to me. But then I noticed that OP has very consistently referred to the other person in the relationship as “their partner” and “they” throughout the thread.

If men want to get rid of the collective suspicions they need to act to prevent their own sexism and misogyny and those of other men!

I’m fine with the collective suspicion, since I know that (a) the suspicions are misplaced for me personally, and this will be obvious to anyone spending any time around me, and (b) because this is a dominant attitude only among women who are chronically online, who I wouldn’t want to spend time with anyway.

So, sorry, your shame-blackmail won’t work on me. If you are going to other me, putting me on the other “side”, then please provide a reason for helping you that will benefit me personally. After all, why would I want to help someone who sees me as an enemy?

Right. As a guy, I’ve never received a nude pic of a girl from a friend. I’ve never had a friend tell me that he sends girls dick pics. I’ve never been in an online community where photos of women are traded like what is described above - I wouldn’t even know where to start looking for this. I’ve never heard about anyone I know having their pictures shared, or anyone I know sharing pictures of someone else in an unethical way. This is quite simply a social sphere that I am completely excluded from. The idea that I have any responsibility or capacity to police this kind of behavior is ludicrous - what am I supposed to do? Talk to my friends and say “So, look at any unethical porn lately, bro?” Or spend my time seeking out toxic communities so I can debate them/report them, instead of going outside and having a life?

One of the biggest things that disturbs my sleep is… having someone else in the same bed. What do they do when you get up to piss in the middle of the night, or get a glass of water? There is an obvious solution - sleep in different rooms/beds.

Giving a shit about recycling is mentally taxing. One of the worst parts of being poor is the mental strain of uncertainty inherent in your life which makes long-term planning and delaying gratification increasingly difficult. Any ounce of willpower you have needs to be spent maintaining or improving your situation, not used up doing things that have literally no impact on your life.

This is why veganism is typically seen by poor people as an extravagant virtue signal of wealthy people. Poor people may choose to eat fewer animal products because they are expensive - but few would turn down a free well cooked steak. Caring about animal rights or the environment is something only the wealthy have the mental bandwidth to do - telling a poor person that they should do these things only serves to alienate them.

Also correct.

Dreaming Spanish, if you are trying to learn Spanish. I seriously think it is the future of language learning, bar none.

Yeah, like, I think this is a bad move for Duolingo as a company, since their code quality will rapidly go downhill with the current state of AI generated code.

But also, if you are a contract employee, you should be prepared to be let go at any moment. That’s sort of the whole point of being a contract employee - you are only employed for the contract. It isn’t unethical in anyway for a company to not rehire employees who knew up front that they might not be rehired.

If specific ingredients are a problem, we should study those ingredients. If specific combinations or characteristics are a problem, we should study those combinations. Don’t throw out the baby (healthy ultra processed foods) with the bathwater (unhealthy ultra processed foods).

We’ve been doing that for years, and the result on public health has been fad diets and “superfoods”. Focusing on ultra processed foods specifically calls out the obvious problem - we were significantly healthier before these foods were invented, and are less healthy after. The categories for processed-ness are necessarily arbitrary, since we have to decide what constitutes “processed”, and so sometimes relatively healthier food ends up appearing “worse” than less healthy food. But the end result is the headline above, which can be pointed to the hundred billion times it must be pointed to, in order to convince people that they should not eat a diet consisting of Doritos, mountain dew, slim jims, and ice cream.

It has not. This is the same group of people who were (and still are) young earth creationists 20 years ago. 1/3 of the American population is just completely divorced from reality, and will believe any stupid bullshit an authority figure tells them.

Because it is easy to find people who hold opinions contrary to those, since the contrary are socially acceptable opinions to hold in reddit-space. This makes running the experiment easier.

I mean, the issue is that this is clearly from a webcomic that no one here reads. And web comics typically have huge amounts of lore about their characters and relationships that can’t be conveyed in a single image. Maybe it actually is funny, if all of us had read the last 1000 pages of the web comic leading up to this… But we didn’t. So we are left with two possible, not mutually exclusive scenarios:

1. This comic sucks.
2. OP sucks, for posting a comic that requires more context than anyone here has.

Only if you build it like shit. Again, like I said, a semi-competent person can do a not-shit job just fine. It just takes longer than having a pro do it.

Knowing how doesn’t imply you actually ever need to do it. It’s like knowing how to change the tire on your car.

Whoever wrote this copy should be fired. Like, holy shit, “push your limits, not your body”? Your body is the limit you are pushing with exercise!!!

Exercise is good for you because it is hard. You are prone to injury when you have not exercised enough previously, because your body never adapted to doing hard things. This is like advertising that you invented a robot to go to the gym and do deadlifts for you, lol.

Obviously there is an application here for the old and frail, and I support grandma being able to go out and hike with her grandkids. But then market it to grandma, not healthy athletic people looking to push their limits.