That is fair reasoning, but unfortunately, this is what many fear it has come at.

based on what? as far as I can tell it’s only anticipation of possible future risk that leads to this thinking, not any actual direct risk right now. There is still largely no criminalization, no camps, etc. The main way trans people are oppressed right are mostly through other categories like poverty and race - those people experience more deaths, violence, disease, and imprisonment (but not for being trans itself, that’s just a compounding factor in their poverty and the way they are targeted or forced into illegal activities like sex work for survival).

The Kansas case shows they use legal transition data in flagging trans people. Of course an actual holocaust is a whole other ballpark, but even then they will be desperate for info on who is who. You don’t think there’s anything worth saving privacy-wise for trans people?

I don’t mean to imply a defeatist attitude, I think it’s a misreading of my point - my point is only that not updating your documents to reflect your actual name and sex is a miscalculation of risks, prioritizing unrealized fears of possible future risks over on-the-ground and actual / direct risk trans people face. I’m not saying there is no benefit to not updating documents or that it never makes sense to not update documents (that would be defeatism), I’m saying despite the possible risks, it often still does make sense to update documents for a lot of trans people.

The reality is that the US even in its right-ward turn is still one of the safest places to be trans, and one of the best places to transition - with greater access to care and better legal rights than most countries.

We don’t know whether the current administration will succeed in their goals, and the situation varies from state to state.

People should probably prioritize getting to safe states, and forming escape plans to leave the country if need be. But updating documents is still a practical step that should be taken by many of us, and the risks of not updating documents seems to far exceed the possible or anticipated future risks of persecution by the government (which again, I don’t think will be a campaign of oppression that does not just hinge on whether documents were updated).

I have the great pleasure of saying I have no idea what openclaw is - is this the agentic AI that just does a recursive prompt loop so it’s talking to itself to give it “agency”?

I think some lawyers might agree with you, and furthermore you just can’t update certain documents with the federal government right now (like social security and passports, both of which won’t respect your gender identity and will only use assigned sex).

However, I tend to think this is a mistaken view overall - probably you will be targeted for being trans whether you update documents or not, and the on-the-ground risks of outing yourself is worse by not updating your name legally.

Think of interactions with the police: would you rather have an updated name and marker on a driver’s license in that interaction and the possibility of passing, or would you rather that interaction guarantees you are treated as a trans person as soon as they see your license whether you pass or not?

I lived in a state that would not let me update my gender marker, so I had interactions with the police where I passed, but once they looked me up in their database (based on my passport with a correct gender marker), they were able to know I was trans, but that wasn’t relevant in the moment because they only learned after my interactions with them that I was trans. They treated my as any other cis woman because I had updated my documents and happened to have a document with the correct gender marker.

I also left that state and moved to another state that does allow me to update my gender marker on my license, and now I have a passport and driver’s license both of which are in my correct gender and name. This is a great situation to be in, and I tend to think any person who is transitioning and is a woman or man should strive for that as well, for safety reasons.

Think of all the cases where someone needs your ID - signing up for gym membership, at physical therapy, at the eye doctor, at a bar, when buying alcohol, etc., if you start to pass all of those interactions become vectors where you will out yourself if you don’t update your name and gender marker, and often people don’t even notice a wrong gender marker (though it’s still a risk, I know someone who ended up being mistreated by a gym because her license had “M” on it).

So in general I think the pragmatic safety value of updating documents far exceeds the risk of being targeted by the government, and if the situation has devolved to the point where that risk flip flops and the gov’t will really be hunting down trans people, the goal at that point should be escaping the country at all costs, because the US gov’t (and their private partners) have significant capacities for data collection and spying and it won’t matter if you never updated your documents.

For context, in the US, car companies already listen to your conversations and use the data they collect to categorize someone’s sexual orientation and gender identity. The store, Target, builds intensive profiles about anyone who goes to a store. Being visibly trans is enough to get you logged that way in a million ways by a million companies. Companies like Google, Oracle, and Facebook track what people do online and build profiles (even if you don’t use their services or visit their websites).

The cooperation between private companies in their data collection and the US gov’t is already strong, but the US gov’t also has a history of forcing companies to disclose information to them and using legal measures to prevent the companies from notifying victims or the general public.

And ICE has already asked & received data from Google on pro-Palestine activists, and when ICE asked, Google broke their own policies to release that information to ICE without a chance for the activists to take legal action to prevent that data being handed over.

So, yeah - changing your documents might be one way the US gov’t tracks trans folks, but it won’t be the only way, and you have to weigh the cost / benefits either way.

I tend to think it’s better for me to have as-accurate-as-possible official documents to prevent hassles. Recently I’ve even had trouble with convincing people I really am the same person I was before I transitioned, so even if it’s not related to trans stigma, having updated documents is also important for avoiding suspicion of committing fraud or having illegitimate documentation (even if it’s actually legitimate).

I could see a practical argument in favor of waiting to socially transition until you’re starting to pass with strangers, but for HRT and medical transition I wouldn’t wait - the risks far outweigh the benefits for waiting.

EDIT: I would never want someone to hold off on their transition because of these stories - I strongly feel people who have gender dysphoria need to take seriously their need to transition; even as I went through these difficulties, the reality of repressing and not transitioning was much, much worse.

Every day of my life pre-transition I wanted to be not alive and most days I actively wanted to exit, but once I transitioned it didn’t take long for me to feel life-affirming and the feelings of not wanting to be alive became far less frequent (for the first time in my life, mind you). This was despite increased social stigma from looking trans, I called it my “irrational happiness”.

So, the awkwardness of a few phone calls does not justify risking your life and staying closeted or repressed. The empirical evidence backs this up, too - it’s not just anecdotal.

fresh bread is delicious, totally worth it!

love the color of your eyes (and also that green top)

✨ 🍔 ✨ hamburger ✨ 🍔 ✨

If we don’t program it to do something, it won’t.

yes, the only caveat would be that people could hook AI up to things that they shouldn’t and not provide sufficient oversight to ensure it is acting reasonably … but the same could be said of cruise control in a car, for example

I do wonder what scary things a text-prediction program will be capable of that has everyone so worried … it’s as simple as just not using it further. LLMs have no agency or independent intelligence.

The harms and concerns are many, but not related to concerns about its intelligence.

… ok, lovely photo and all, but I have to know what cocktails they are!

I guess there’s a question of why you would expose yourself to that … even if you love her, that only makes it worse, no?

I would like a constitutional scholar to answer this question. I’m not qualified to answer.

there probably would be peace, after the nukes hit 🤔

congrats!!

honestly not making contact is a good idea in a bathroom in general 😅

If I happen to make eye contact with someone I might smile to indicate friendliness and warmth, and that’s usually enough. The fellow girl smile is always nice. :-)

It varied, but yes - I had much worse customer service experiences (and just interactions with the public in general) caused by discomfort with my transition.

On the positive side of things (I guess, if you consider it positive), cis allies who wanted to communicate they supported me tended to bomb me with compliments and kindness. I would be standing in line and a random woman would come up to me and start touching my dress and ooing and awing about it and asking where I got it. Random workers in the health food store who had ignored me for years would start randomly complimenting my clothes. That kind of thing.

An area where customer service really became worse was when I would make phone calls, e.g. to financial institutions, utility companies, medical providers, etc.

It was especially bad when routed to a call center in the “third world” (e.g. India), and when I had to either update my name & gender, or otherwise out myself as trans over the phone.

One example: it took me several months to recover a financial account; not only were there problems with their information systems, but culturally it was a shock for people on the phone to be dealing with a transsexual and I think they either sabotaged, resisted, or otherwise were negligent with the process of updating my information.

Voice training really helped with this, and making an effort to update my name & gender wherever I could in conjunction with voice training meant I had fewer and fewer situations where I had to out myself.

One of my worst experiences was trying to get my marriage license updated. The clerk wouldn’t issue a new license and only issued an invalid one where the old name was left visible with a thin line through it and they scribbled the new name in next to it by hand, and they used white-out on my gender marker instead of changing it (or even just removing it properly). I’m fairly certain that’s illegal and my only legal copy of my marriage license is now semi-illegitimate, as well as outing me clearly to anyone who sees it. At this point I’m just waiting for Trump to lose power and for the cultural and political winds to shift. Currently civil rights lawyers are completely swamped and the courts are increasingly hostile anyway, so I don’t see what I can do other than wait.

good for you, so many women don’t ever get free from shitty, abusive husbands - you’re amazing 👏

that sounds nightmarish, a man telling me to shave would definitely make me want to not shave

I shave a lot (legs, armpits, etc.) but bush is important to me, lol

whoa !rimworld@lemmy.world x !femcelmemes@lemmy.blahaj.zone crossover!?

hm, I would need my phone potentially to authorize certain logins, and I don’t have backup authenticators, so I guess I would choose keys because I can always replace or have backup keys?

it’s 4chan’s trans community, their board was /lgbt/ and the joke was that there weren’t a lot of lesbian, gay, or bi people, it was mostly trans people, so instead of lgbt it was just “trans, trans, trans and trans” (hence /tttt/ instead of /lgbt/). It started off just as a joke about the over-representation of trans women on the 4chan /lgbt/ board.

see: https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki//tttt/