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  • Why the fuck does anyone care if someone else is wearing one

    It’s because all people are emotional first, and many people are stupid, too.

    Seeing a mask makes them think about the pandemic, disease, mortality, death, all that heavy stuff. That feels bad. Rather than deal with that in a healthy way, they can just lash out at the thing that’s bringing the bad-feels to the foreground. That is stupid. That’s yelling at the smoke detector instead of doing something about the fire.

    Accepting that wearing a mask is a reasonable choice means accepting a bunch of other uncomfortable things.

    This can also go down the “in group good, outgroup bad” route. Belief is social. People do shit to feel like they’re part of the group. Somehow wearing masks became political.




  • That sounds neat. But also reminds me of a related peeve: Where non-monogamy is depicted, it’s always like a group. A throuple.

    In real life, I’m dating a woman. She has a wife. I am not dating her wife. I am friendly with her wife, but that’s it. My date is also dating another man. We’re friendly. We talk about video games. But we’re not a thing together.

    The polycule looks something like this. I know there’s more people further removed from me, but I don’t know them well (or in some cases at all). That’s okay.

    L   ?   B    N       T - ?
    |   |   |    |       |
    C - S - Me - A - E - R
    |   |
    ?   ?
        |
        ?
    
    

    Non-monogamy doesn’t have to be a triangle. There’s a reason “polycule” is a really good pun.

    I don’t know if this has been depicted in media other than like niche fanfiction.


  • That’s what I always say. Targeted advertising should be illegal. Contextual advertising is acceptable.

    If I’m on the star trek wiki, serve me ads for star trek, sci-fi, and whatever. You don’t need to know anything about me specifically.

    We’d still need to do something about like ads that take up too much space, hurt page performance, or introduce malware, but removing the stalking would be an improvement




  • One of the reasons I left my old DND group. Everyone else was happy to play out a “put the baby boy on the throne currently occupied by the adult woman” plot without batting an eye. I’m like, first off monarchy is awful and second off why are you trying to make us support literal patriarchy?

    I don’t think anyone literally said “why are you making this political?” but that was the energy I was reading.


  • I’m more of a Himedere, and it’s a lot of fun when the group is into it.

    I did a really good dungeon with a puzzle once. Part of how it worked resulted in players unexpectedly getting split up and not being able to find their way back, while also being at risk of freezing to death. One of the players was like “I’ve never been so stressed in my life”, but like in a good way, and I took that as the highest praise. I was so proud of them when they figured out the dungeon



  • This is partly because the apps suck (because of capitalism/profit motive) and partly because we all suck.

    Many people of all genders won’t do better than “hey”. And then complain that they’re not having good experiences. Sometimes it’s garbage in, garbage out, my dudes.

    I also get a lot of weird dead ends. Their profile will be like “I love elden ring”. You’ll be like “elden ring is a masterpiece! Did you play the new expansion yet?” They’ll be like “no”. End of messages. My dude. That’s not how this works. In real life, fine, maybe you can give a short answer and see what they do, read some body language. But in an asynchronous text only communication? That’s not pulling your weight. And if you’re not actually interested, just unmatch. If you don’t have time , don’t reply at all. It’s async. Come back later.

    Maybe some of these people match with each other and are very happy with “what’s up?” “nm u?” “Im good” forever.










  • jjjalljs@ttrpg.networktoOff My Chest@lemmy.worldI miss text-based tutorials
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    4 days ago

    This has come up a few times and I agree: I vastly prefer text in most cases.

    However! I learned that something like half of US adults cannot read at a 6th grade level.

    Everyone here, on a heavy text based forum, is probably able to read English. But for a lot of people who probably aren’t going to post here, reading can be stressful, frustrating, and embarrassing.

    So that sucks. We should probably be investing in education instead of whatever idiocy venture capital is setting on fire this week.