You’ve clearly never lived in Montréal. We have had a massive decrease in private lots over the years, massive expansion of bike lanes, expansion of car share programs, and newly built train lines. Every year we are less and less dependent on cars and the city has only gotten better from things like this.

You haven’t been through border security?

Yeah I feel that, I also think there are some books where the friction is there enough that audiobooks are perfectly fine as a substitute. I think for textbooks maybe it’s more than I need a direct and tangible reason to use the knowledge but then it won’t feel I’m reading to learn but reading to do something else. It ain’t easy 😂

I know it can be really difficult to listen to the advice to “turn off all distractions” when I need to interact with technology in order to do most things besides my martial arts and spending time with my partner. I also rarely keep to a habit or just reducing something, I need to replace it with something that pushes me to do something else which isn’t easy.

You are literally talking in a group about a neurodivegence, a type of mental health issue which makes us function differently than others. This means there are behaviors we can’t easily change due to how our neurological functioning.

Do you truely believe you are in 100% in control of every little action you do? That no underlying cognitive barriers exist to make you do things or not? Are you some type of robot or a human being?

Also, do you even have ADHD? If you do, you must either be some evolved specimen above us mere mortals or you lack the empathy and self awareness to understand that people can sometimes struggle to change themselves.

I can both have struggles to change my behavior and not hate myself at the same time, it’s called accepting myself for who I am.

You are literally telling a psychologist that you know better about how this works. Also I’m not unhappy with myself, I love myself. I also know there are things I can do to improve and am seeking advice from my community to do so. Your advice basically boils down to “just stop lol” which would not be helpful at all to anyone for anything.

I also specifically asked for resources, not your opinions, so do keep them to yourself in the future.

That actually did help me a lot, I think the feeling of finishing a page even though you technically didn’t helps keep up the satisfaction as you don’t feel like there is this monumental amount of reading left to do. I know with books sometimes I’ll be reading, stop, look at the amount I have left, and it discourages me to continue.

That’s definitely too basic. I work on a screen all day and use my phone for communication as much as anything. I could block apps but that hasn’t changed my behaviors. Also we have a neurodivegence which inherently can’t distinguish the importance of stimuli so I just replace one distraction with another.

Yeah I do have one and the other commenter idea of having it in the bathroom is a good idea. Though I do have a lot of physical books I want to reach that are psychology and programming related. So trying to more figure out those.

Though on my e-reader I right now have 3 books 33% finished 😂 (though two are anthologies of multiple books or stories so at least there is that)

Are there any resources on how to potentially improve this? I know audiobooks, but I do really want to actually read. I did talk to my therapist in the past about it but they were no help.

Which is kind of what the point is. Start it without a habit, form a habit of playing that makes you want to do the action of exercise

This is actually a well studied phenomenon in research as autistic people have been shown not to have worse social communication or empathy but differently structured kinds that are sometimes incompatible with neurotypical people (I’d go find some papers but im typically this from bed in the morning)

Also if you’re looking for resources on how to best support and work with neurodivergent people I highly suggest you pick up The Canary Code by Dr. Ludmila Praslova, it’s probably the best text on the subject to date: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/742858/the-canary-code-by-ludmila-n-praslova-phd/

The answer is they are not but it’s more about proximity and shared experience. No two neurodivergent people are the same and those with different divergences sometimes horribly clash in terms of communication styles. However two autistic people may have more in common in terms of communication styles and shared experience to communicate far more easily than with a neurotypical person.

Yeah I really find that 0 is now the definitive series entry. Everything kind of only works if you start with 0 and do Kiwami now. It’s also a much tighter and satisfying character progression for all involved.

Moon Channel makes some really amazing content and at a pretty astounding speed so thanks for posting.

Love seeing this, Montréal needs to step up it’s winter cycling game

Lemmy is less popular and therefore more niche, meaning you’ll get smaller communities with stronger opinions, and therefore way more political extremism

I feel that, a lot of the provinces worry more about money now than our future.

Also grit is an over hyped and under delivered construct of human cognition that really is only spoken of seriously nowadays by people trying to sell you something

https://www.apa.org/news/apa/2020/gritty-truth

Oil is literally the biggest polluter on the planet, you basically just said “I don’t hate murders specifically, I hate killings and people that purposefully kill others”