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Cake day: August 14th, 2023

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  • Thanks, but what do I say when I first meet them? I did meet the older older one four years ago, but she may not remember much from that time, and I’d be meeting the youngest one for the first time. They are aware of me in general though so it’s not like I’m a total stranger.

    Sure, I could ask about their interests and what they did recently recently, but what after that? I’ll be living with them for a couple of weeks so I can’t ask them the same questions every day. Also I don’t want to bombard them with questions either, otherwise it’ll seem like an interview. What do I say to them when I run into them the first thing in the morning? Like I can wish them a good morning of course, but what after that? How do I pan out the conversations across day 2, day 3 etc? I don’t want to sound like a broken record and repeat the same dialogue every day.

    I’m not really good with small talk even with adults btw, but if it’s something about my work or hobbies, I can talk for ages - however I can’t really do that with the kids though.



  • But were they also not in concrete agreement when you said that you didn’t want kids? Or did they only give a vague response? Just curious what was the initial agreement exactly, and how did they changed their stance, because I’m currently on the market myself and I’ve been pretty upfront that I don’t want kids, and it’s usually my very first question before I proceed to even ask them about anything else. Those who don’t want kids are also generally upfront about it and would agree immediately, whereas others may either give a vague reply or be on the fence, or straight up say they wanted kids - all of which would be an immediate rejection from me. Unless they’re in firm agreement, I don’t proceed any further with the chat.