Hello, I(31M) guess I will begin from the start of this relationship. I became friends with Kay(24F) who is a is an ENM relationship with Jon(24M). Kay and I really hit it off and began being intimate. Fast forward to a couple weeks ago. While Kay and I were chilling Jon came home and was so upset he could barely contain himself. Kay’s demeanor changed as well. I just ignored it. The next time I was going to chill with Kay, she couldn’t because Jon needed to “apparently process something”. A week later I met up with Kay and she said she was overwhelmed and couldn’t hang out as often. I just took it at face value. I haven’t seen her since. She continues to text me, and insists she wants to see me. I am definitely confused, but should I be worried?

  • Maddie@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    17·
    9 months ago

    Yeah that’s a huge red flag. Ethical non-monogamy can only work if everyone is open and honest with each other about things, and it definitely sounds like K and J are not on the same page on this

    • Gamaxray@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      6·
      9 months ago

      I totally agree. Communication is key is making them work. I have been shut out of any communication regarding the status of their relationship. I know nothing. I Should I attempt to establish some communication? Or should I just fuck off?