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  • Gamaxray@lemmy.worldOPtoRelationship Advice@lemmy.worldShould I Be Worried?
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    9 months ago

    I have this: Hey Kay! So, I have a few questions that have been in my head for a bit. I have decided to ask you. When we last chilled, why was Jon so upset? Your demeanor changed as well when they got home. And the next time we were going to chill and you had to “process” something. Was that about us? Is Jon jealous? When y’all decided to become an ENM relationship, what was your true intention? I ask these questions because if I am the cause of any issues, we need to discuss them and figure out what’s going to happen. I care for you. I want you to be happy, content, and safe. I don’t want you to do anything you do not want to. And I want you to be free to do what you want.



  • I cannot answer those questions. I can speculate. I feel they are new to ENM relationships and may have entered into it as a way to find new partners. Not much prep work or ground rules. Idk. It is kinda looking like Jon is that kind of person. I am so thankful for your advice! I will have to prepare a message to Kay. Any advice on how to communicate my concerns?








  • Gamaxray@lemmy.worldOPtoRelationship Advice@lemmy.worldShould I Be Worried?
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    9 months ago

    Thanks for the thought out reply. I wish I could give you more information. Maybe this is relevant, Jon didn’t get Kay any thing for her birthday. I did. I care about Kay and just want her to be safe and happy. I don’t want her to do anything she doesn’t want to do. And I want her to be able to do what she wants. Jon is actively seeking his own side piece and has possibly found one. I don’t see him on Grindr anymore. Where as before he would be on it constantly while we would all chill. I’m of the stance that people should just love and fuck who they want, love isn’t a limited resource. All the rules and labels are BS. I miss my friends. Jealously sucks.