Hello, I(31M) guess I will begin from the start of this relationship. I became friends with Kay(24F) who is a is an ENM relationship with Jon(24M). Kay and I really hit it off and began being intimate. Fast forward to a couple weeks ago. While Kay and I were chilling Jon came home and was so upset he could barely contain himself. Kay’s demeanor changed as well. I just ignored it. The next time I was going to chill with Kay, she couldn’t because Jon needed to “apparently process something”. A week later I met up with Kay and she said she was overwhelmed and couldn’t hang out as often. I just took it at face value. I haven’t seen her since. She continues to text me, and insists she wants to see me. I am definitely confused, but should I be worried?

  • SatansInteriorDsgnr@lemmy.worldEnglish
    11·
    9 months ago

    Worried about what? It seems clear she and J are having some issues and it’s probably better to not get involved. Behind closed doors they clearly have a problem they’re working through. What you need now are boundaries for yourself and to think about and talk about your own personal expectations with K.

    • Gamaxray@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      31·
      9 months ago

      I’m not sure exactly. Worried about Kay’s happiness and maybe safety. It just has left a bad gut feeling that I cannot shake.

      • SatansInteriorDsgnr@lemmy.worldEnglish
        3·
        9 months ago

        Communication is key. Text her like, “Hey was thinking about you, everything ok with you and Jon?” And let her fill in the open-ended question with whatever she’s comfortable telling you about.

        • Gamaxray@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
          2·
          9 months ago

          I was going to send a very specific and throughout message. I have it typed out and almost ready to send. But your suggestion may be better. We have been texting eachother Good morning and good night texts for months now. maybe I should drop it in one of them.