• nudermeisters@lemmynsfw.com
            3·
            1 year ago

            I… wont discount your experience, but I will say that my personal experience is wildly differing from your statement.

            I’ve been in a “5 guys: 1 girl”, and a few “2 girls: 1 guy”, absolutely phenomenal sex each time, and an undeniably fantastic fun time with a ton of laughing.

            Everyone likes different stuff, which is 100% ok

            • SEND_BUTTPLUG_PICS@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
              3·
              1 year ago

              Like many men I fantasize about FFM threesomes, but then I after I think about it a bit I realize that I don’t think my ego could handle disappointing two women at the same time.

            • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
              4·
              1 year ago

              Sorry if I struck a nerve, I was joking, but it is kind of the theme of the post…

              If you want actual advice, I’ve found that some well executed tongue-play sets the mood and loosens things up quite nicely and maybe have some toys to play with ready as well. The reality is though that if it’s a hard line for your partner and they aren’t willing to compromise you’re in a tough spot.

              • nudermeisters@lemmynsfw.com
                21·
                1 year ago

                Lol, thanks for the advice. At my age, if im not already aware that preheating an oven is the best way to cook, I’ve got no business near a lady’s anus anyway, I’d wager. The reality appears to be that I’m just attracted to the types of women who aren’t interested in anal. I’m fine with it; vaginal sex is the most incredible thing I’ve experienced, and I’m not greedy.

                Edit also, apologies, I’ve never heard anal rape referrd to as “cancun surprise”, and as such didnt make the association with the post title. Youre good.

                • MaybeALittleBitWeird@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
                  2·
                  1 year ago

                  Referencing your edit: I don’t think it’s a widely used term tbh and if it is I’m willing to bet it means something far different. I was specifically just using the post title lmao.

                  Fair enough and sometimes that’s just life. I mostly commented that because of your “just the tip” comment because to me that speaks at least to a certain level of willingness but maybe a lack of preparation in the end. For someone who’s inexperienced it takes a LOT of warm up, like on the order of hours, to ensure it’s a pleasurable experience because in the end you need to be relaxed for it to feel good which can be tough if the sensations are new and you’re in pain.