As I get older into adulthood I feel like more and more things require my attention. Trying to juggle work, family, home maintenance etc I’m constantly busy. I can almost never find time to rest because there is always something that has to be done. How do you find time to rest and cope with the stress but also get the things on your plate complete?
I have “Do Nothing” days. It’s really the only way I survive, honestly.
During many parts of the year, my job and home lives are extremely hectic and stressful. Whenever I can, I designate a “do nothing” day, which helps my brain actually take advantage of resting that day without thinking “omg I need to do this, and this, and this”, etc. Usually it ends up being a Saturday, and while I’d love for it to be weekly, I’d say I have them more like twice a month or so.
The rules for a Do Nothing day are that I Do Not Do Anything Important, I don’t even leave the house - just chill, play video games, read, craft, garden, watch TV, sleep, etc. Whatever feels right. It makes picking back up with the stress the next day much easier to handle. Plus, I find it’s really hard for me to ever relax even when I do have a moment to do so, so I would usually waste all that time anyway throughout the week just straight up worrying about what I should be doing. At least by doing this I combine all that time into one day, and I actually use it to relax!
Inhale as normal. Hold a few seconds. Exhale as long and slow as you can.
This lowers your level of physiological arousal.
The exhale needs to be longer than the inhale. As long as possible is best. After a few minutes of that, you’ll start to feel pure relief spreading through your body as you exhale.
trust me just try it. Normal, even quick, inhale. Hold it a few seconds, exhale as long and slow as you can. Then repeat for as long as you want. You can even do it while doing other stuff. It’s just a breathing pattern.
Right now. I don’t. I have to have sinus surgery and teeth extracted because the infection is so bad I feel it in my entire body- and my old-aged dog is showing rapid signs of checking out.
I’m lost and I don’t know what to do.
You’ll never regret the time you spent with your dog — only the time you didn’t.
So true.
Just wanted to say “this too shall pass.” Surgery is never fun but at least it’ll be fixed soon. Losing pets hurts but you have all the good times to think back on, and maybe a new pet to look forward to as well.
I have been one of those people who are pretty negative with their outlook on life. I started therapy because I was tired of being frustrated and angry and, frankly, depressed all the time.
One of things I learned is that if you aren’t naturally “happy go lucky” you have to work at it. Why I ever expected to just be happy now seems like a real “no shit” moment. But once someone told me that I’ve been able to look at my life in a different light.
I’m still negative as fuck, but at least now I can recognize it for what it is, short circuit my thought process a little bit, and not spiral as much as I used to. I’m a middle-aged work in progress but that’s ok!
Good luck, fellow traveler!
Thank you. I really appreciate the time to took to respond. This means a lot.
You’re welcome.
Stay strong and know strangers have your back, even virtually and anonymously.
I’m really trying, but most of the time I don’t think anything is working. My head is full of doom and gloom. Im freaking out because i don’t know if this is who I am now, or it’s a side-effect of the infection, the meds, or what have you.
My mid is racing all over the pace and never to anywhere good
