This isn’t about grieving, just assuming the complete absence of your family and all the inheritance.
I’d pay off my medical debt and go back to university. I’m so tired. I just want to learn and stop struggling. I don’t even qualify for my own debt so I have to have it in someone else’s name, being bound to an abuser…
Basically my entire family did die and I got half the inheritance… I’d prefer the family, to be honest. I had to deal with multiple estates and all the paperwork as it wasn’t complicated enough to require legal assistance. It wasn’t exactly “fuck you” money but it was a solid enough chunk.
I haven’t done a great deal, paid off my student loan (UK amount, not a US insane amount) and renovated the family home so it is fit for habitation. Invested some more and just focused on remaining financially stable while probably giving more regular contributions to charity than I would have. I remain as frugal as I was before, probably to a fault.