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    Tonight the man and I have been invited to our daughter’s year 10 awards night where she will receive 1 maybe 2 awards.

    Awards are good and all but I’m more proud that she has a road to follow now after starting her secondary education in absolute chaos.

    It’s good that some of her teachers have taken an interest in her education by saying “hey you’re really good at this subject. You should stick with it”. My husband and I can only go so far with her and it’s good to see some of these teachers step up.

    She’s worked out that being smart isn’t good enough if you don’t put in any work.

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        I’d imagine they can help with finding a reason to put up with working for a living. Also to fill out what we’d call life with ups and downs, book weeks and swimming lessons rather than the numb emptiness of a quiet house. Someone to channel love into and through. Someone who you can at least try to teach to be a net-positive to the world. Someone to mow the lawns. Someone to tell your old crap jokes to who is a clean slate and hasn’t heard them before. Someone to invite over for Christmas once they’ve moved out and started their own lives.

        This isn’t a list of things everybody wouldn’t have if they didn’t have children by the way. But I imagine it’d apply to a lot of people.

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          To help heal their trauma but to fail terribly as a parent and the kids end up with mental health issues due to neglect and abuse. Don’t have a kid because your life is shit. I plead with you.

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          I see where you’re coming from and I’d generally agree. I think for me it’s more that I don’t want to bring a child into this world.

          There’s going to be a huge food, water and climate problem in the near future (I work in this space and know how companies and investors think). I don’t think it would be fair to bring a child in this hot mess, but that’s just me. Also a part of me does not have the patience to deal with a child and selfishly, I don’t want to give my time to a child. I don’t think I’ll make the sacrifices necessary for the child.

          Anyway, that’s just me and thank you for listening to my rant 💁‍♂️

          Also plenty of orphaned kids in the world in case I / future we decide we want a kid. I’d gladly adopt!

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          mow the lawns

          This is probably the main reason.

          I’ve convinced my parents now that it’s good exercise so as they get older they should do it for health reasons. The argument worked so now when I’m at theirs I just stand there and watch.

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            We don’t all live on farms any more where kids are needed to help with the work. Although having been forced to work at the family business after school every day for zero pay was pretty shit.

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        You have children because you want children.

        If you don’t want children, please don’t have children. There are enough unwanted children in this world already.

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    I called to confirm picking up Melbcat tomorrow, she’s been such a good cat. I’m going to get the cold shoulder for abandoning her when she gets home though :(

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      She will pointedly ignore you while endeavouring to be as near to you as possible at all times.

      You know, just so she can judge the efficacy of her ignoring you

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          it’s actually not even butthurt - cats are used to having each other randomly disappear then reappear like nbd. The making obsessively sure they’re near you is the enthusiastic welcome back jumping and facelicks of the cat world.

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            She does it after every time we’re separated :( Refuses to look at me, doesn’t want to be patted. When normally she’s a velcro cat

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              she doesn’t’ want you to know the things she had to do while inside The Joint. The pets she took for kibble! The laps she sat in to survive!

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                Oh baby girl is social and crawls into laps for fun. She rolls over for belly rubs with people she knows, and in her old home she used to sit on the low wall and get pats and chats from passersby. She’s not fooling me!

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      She still might not be feeling 100% so don’t take that as rejection or being cross at you. She will need so many cuddles

      and don’t ever feel guilty for looking after her, sometimes doing the right thing is hard, doesn’t make it less right

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        I hope it’s just being a bit shaken and readjusting. I hated doing that but knew it could be a long wait, and I needed to make sure she was properly looked after if I was unexpectedly longer in the hospital.

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    Image source

    Male antechinus (shrew-like marsupials) fuck themselves to death during a short, highly frenzied mating season. A rapid, fatal decline in health is triggered by high levels of stress hormones, immune system suppression, and just plain physical exhaustion.

  • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
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    We’re back from the Awards ceremony. A very long night. A lot of speeches. The new principal’s went for a good 15 minutes. I tuned out after 5. A lot of awards. Very deserving awards. A lot of clapping.

    Then we went to macca’s and the FRIES WERE FUCKING HOT. Bonus.

    Oh and by the way the kid won 2 awards. One for History and one for Health & Human Development. These were HIGHEST ACHIEVEMENT AWARDS PEOPLE. Not effort awards. No Coles gift card 😔 So proud ☺

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    Microsoft Word just came up with an alert to warn me that the proofing tools are not checking any text that is in German. This does not seem like a problem, given that I am not using any words in German.

  • the_procrastinata@aussie.zone
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    Caption: a big spinning Christmas decoration at Würzburg Christmas market. It snowed beautifully here in Würzburg this afternoon, so things are blanketed in light fluffy snow. It was -3° when we arrived this morning and we had a fun day exploring the city. No Glühwein for us yet as we’re still a bit jet lagged and I know I’ll get badly tipsy instead of fun tipsy on it. Hopefully tomorrow night!

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    Just to add insult to injury this week, after months of my brother pressuring me I reached out to elderly extended family. “You don’t know how long they have left! You’ll regret it”. yeah pretty confident the conversation was more upsetting for them than cathartic. I stopped calling cause every time I spoke to them I needed a drink afterwards and this was no exception. They don’t want to know what my direct family did, but they certainly wanna make me feel bad about it. Then I had to call my bro and be like “Yo, they dunked on me and kind of slammed you too. They’re upset and pissed off at us and genuinely cant understand why we would turn out back on FAAAAAAAMMMILLLY”

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    Welcome to Numbat Facts.

    The mean weight of an adult numbat is 552g.

    This is less than the weight of a Large Slurpie. Which is not a very useful comparison as Numbats are not an effective hot weather beverage.

  • Duenan@aussie.zone
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    I bought some frozen southern chicken bits and some fresh marinated chicken the other day.

    I’m honestly excited in coking them and eating them later in the week.

    Oh how simple my life is.

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      My life must be simple too, because my mouth is watering and I am jealous. Southern chicken = second best chicken (after Korean chicken)

  • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
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    Still not feeling good at all.

    It seems being in a fair amount of pain (frequently peaking to straight up ‘vomit and lie on the bathroom floor’ severe) is almost a daily thing at this point. I just want some answers and to actually treat whatever the hell is going on for me rather than waving it off as psychosomatic and being left to struggle with it using only the same things that aren’t working. It’s been so many years and it’s only worsening. I’m tired of living in constant pain and having my life stunted because of barely being able to do anything. Praying that the new specialists can be seen soon.

    Ugh.

    I’m going to skip this page on drawing the manga eyes as that’s not really the style I intend to pursue. I’m just speedrunning this book to get a very basic grasp on the more applicable things like figure drawing and proportions. Just to kind of shake me out of intimidation paralysis and to get more comfortable using a sketchbook as a tool, for learning and getting messy.

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      So many hugs.

      And can I make a suggestion? Go to your GP and ask for help in coping with everyday life while you wait for better diagnosis and treatment?

      because how you live is very important and it’s not something doctors will always think about

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        I’ve changed GPs and this one is good (if a bit time limited), I’ll definitely be discussing this there. I’ve also got some advocates now in dealing with the medical system. But fuck me… it was really just allowed to get this bad.