Edit : Just to clear up some shit I do have IRL friends its just that moving around coupled with the fact that I don’t have Instagram or Snapchat has made me lose a lot of contacts and the ones that are left aren’t always available which is quite understandable as we all have our own shit to deal with and sometimes when their free I’m not etc .
There are no respectable chatroom anywhere on the internet that I can find (I have not checked discord which is said to have some but I’m not going to check it and I’m not hopeful as it is the only place I haven’t checked yet.).
My interests are just movies and TV, music etc but we can talk about anything . Don’t DM if your a creep or some shit .I didn’t know where else to post this and hope it is OK I’m just tired of the forum format and wanna have a more connected conversation . That’s about it .
Like its not even easy to make friends on Lemmy we just have fun in a thread and move on like each experience or fun we had is in a capsule and can’t get out of it . Its true for real life too I guess we meet people become friends and then move on because life gets and then you look back and see they were always temporary and was there because you and they were there at the same place at the same time and was never meant to be . like how 99% of people replying and I will not be in touch when this post becomes 2 days old .
Idk why I wrote the last sentence out maybe because I moved to another state and had some friends in the flat I lived and now that I have moved back (we all split to our own state after the study I was the last one to reach there I only stayed there for two months while there were there for 9 months or so) we have minimal to no contacts .
Why ? I kinda like my current hobbies I try shit from time to time but these are the ones I can enjoy and if I can’t enjoy something but just do it to just say I do that, isn’t that working without pay ?
You said your hobbies were working out and reading. Those aren’t hobbies that’s just being a human being friend. Where’s the passion?
No one said anything about pay, forget that.
You added cycling. Are you a part of any local group for it? Long distance or mountain biking?
Edit: To the downvoters, the goal is for him to get out and meet other people that have the same hobby. If you want to make friends as an adult, this is practically the only way. If he doesn’t want anything new than maybe a book club?
You’re being downvoted for claiming that working out and reading are not hobbies, which is, quite frankly, bullshit.
To me that’s just basic human maintenance, body & mind. That’s fine though, to each their own. Maybe taking care of yourself should be a hobby!
Heh these young people don’t realise what happens if you stop working out past a certain age.
For me the problematic thing here is the insinuation that having a distinct hobby specific passion is what makes us interesting as human beings, that somehow human connection is predicated on passion and carved out hobbies. Not all of us have energy or time or just general mental capacity or desire to take on a passion project or dive into a hobby. I have family, friends, dogs, work, boating, biking, dog rescue, cheese, these are all a part of what make me but nothing I want to join a club over or dedicate any more time to than I already do. Some days are just about living and being. I can still be fun and funny and compassionate and interesting to talk to without having to develop and showcase a specific passion. Anywho
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No .I just like to cycle around there is no local group or anything around here and after I have moved and came back I have not yet started riding again and I don’t think I will .
I do enjoy working out and reading I don’t do those cause they are necessary I’m aldready lean I just do it cause I enjoy it .