• Anarcho-Bolshevik@lemmygrad.ml
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    I feel like I am growing more and more antisocial by the month, and in ways that I never anticipated. My birthday was five days ago and I chose to avoid mentioning it (except to somebody on a Matrix channel). I gave up on voice chat with somebody because of some technical difficulties. I haven’t even touched Discord in a week, let alone attempted to communicate with others there.

    Lastly, there is something else that I feel too uncomfortable to talk about in public, but it has pushed me in the direction of more suicide ideation… the main reason that I quit ideating yesterday was that I was afraid of only reincarnating into a life even worse than this one, and I usually don’t enjoy gambling.

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      Happy Birthday : ) it sounds like it’s been rough for you, and while I can’t ever possibly know your situation, please treat yourself kindly. You’re a good person and you deserve to be happy. Even if it’s just treating yourself a little bit as a birthday gift, I hope things are able to look up for you.

      It was my birthday a few days ago too actually. I took off from work for the day, but no one remembered except for my babushka with a short text. It’s hard not being remembered, but things will look up.

      But again, Happy birthday! I hope this coming year will be better for you : )

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    TIL that cybertrucks were designed in such a way that they could be completely tax deductable. Thats why a ton of american petitebourgeois are buying them.

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    I saw one tweet earlier on how many days every european country fought Hitler and surrendered. any one has any clue?

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      The title is overblown and ragebait. The Department of Health was considering changing their medical guidelines regarding surgery, but they were just floating the idea. The proposal was to lower the minimum age for hysterectomies and genital surgery from 18 to 17, and mastectomies from 16 to 15, as they are technically minors, but the Department of Health stated they couldn’t scientifically justify reducing the age due to the high probability of complications and liability. So they scrapped the plans.

      Transmasc minors can still get mastectomies at 16, trans fems can get breast implants at 17, and hormone treatments can still begin at 14-16, with puberty blockers before then.

      Anyway, still doesn’t mean Biden cares at all about trans people. He probably forgot they exist.

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      I want to learn more about the LGBT community and since I’m a cis white guy living in a post soviet country, who grew up in a conservative family, I know jack shit.

      So I want to ask this question, is it okay for minors to have an opportunity to make surgeries on themselves? Like, we have age gaps for a reason, is there something that I’m missing here? Should there not be any regulations regarding this?

      Like, minors are notoriously not great at making decisions or being reasonable, I wouldn’t trust myself doing something this big, that’s for sure.

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        The use of the word minor in this headline is misleading as it implies that young kids are getting surgeries, this is not the case the only minors getting surgery are like 17 year olds at the youngest, there is no 12 or 13 year old getting gender affirming surgeries. Since only the oldest of minors are getting surgery I don’t really see it as an issue as there is not really a big mental and decision making difference between someone who is 17 and someone who is 18. Im not advocating for 13 year olds to get surgery and I am also not advocating for no regulation on surgery, those regulations greatly protect the ones on the operating table from malpractice and other injuries, and overall.

        On the topic of not knowing if you made the right decision in the surgery; being trans is something that you know as living in your body as it is can cause serious mental anguish and even physical anguish. To really deny corrective surgery to that pain is just cruel. Imagine if you had pain coming from your wisdom teeth and you told your doctor that you needed to have them removed because they were causing you pain, but instead of giving you an appointment to an oral surgeon (like they do today). Your doctor instead questioned if your pain was even real or if you were faking it. Imagine then them telling you that if you really WANT a surgery you need to make sure you are mentally well enough to deal with the “consequences” of not having your wisdom teeth (the same teeth that cause you great pain) anymore and they made you get the signatures of 3 different (and very expensive) psychologists that say that you are mentally well enough to get your wisdom teeth removed because they are causing you great pain. That hypothetical situation may seem completely absurd but it is what many of us trans folks have to go through not only to get surgery but even just HRT. Its completely ridiculous, especially so because cis people can get as much cosmetic surgery as they want and as long as they have the money and nobody will give them shit for it, but as soon as a trans person wants a cosmetic surgery we have to jump through tonnes of hoops.

        One final point is that if trans surgery for minors is banned today we have to think about what will be next. These restrictive legislations for trans minors are almost never the end of the restrictions for trans people after they get rid of surgery for minors then they will aim to get rid of surgery for adults as well. And then this goes on until our existence is effectively made illegal. Because that the end goal, to be able to lock us up somewhere for just existing. With that in mind it becomes crucial to resist and oppose any reduction in the autonomy of any type of trans person because a threat to one is a threat to all

        Also thank you for asking questions in good faith, frankly most cis people don’t give us the time of day. And if you want to know more about trans people just PM me and I will get back to you.

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          Fucking awesome response, thank you so much for it. I get how you feel now much more.

          I think an important point to make as well is that these legislations are not even made by trans people, so they have no authority on telling you what to do. Fuck them all.

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        When they mean minor in this case, they are referring to children 16 and older who have parental approval, and the approval of at least one psychiatrist and psychologist who have determined that a surgery is medically required to treat body dysphoria and that there is no other option.

        There is nowhere on the planet that 10 year olds are getting surgeries, but the phrase “trans minors” is used by reactionaries to obfuscate the issue and make people believe that the phrase is referring to small children.

        Further, receiving approval for a gender affirming surgery as a minor is horrifically difficult. The process takes several years as the child must have a substantiated and documented history of body dysphoria by medical professionals. A process that is costly, time consuming, and emotionally and mentally draining. If a person is not committed they will simply not be able to follow through; as it would be like putting your legs in an industrial just for fun. No sane person is doing that just because they feel like it.

        Trans affirming surgeries have an astonishingly negligible regret and reversal rate. Hip replacement surgeries have a regret rate magnitudes higher for example. This is because of how arduous and thorough the screening process is.

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        Like, minors are notoriously not great at making decisions or being reasonable, I wouldn’t trust myself doing something this big, that’s for sure.

        But a minor isn’t making this decision alone. At the very least, there are all of the medical professionals who have a checklist of things to work through before recommending and clearing any particular procedures. Also, its going to be pretty difficult for most minors to get any kind of gender affirming medical care without a parent being involved. So before there’s any arbitrary limits to care based on age there’s going to be a small army of people who are already directly involved with the decision making process alongside the patient.

        Removing the arbitrary age limits allows for patients who are developing faster than the average that the age limits where based on and their doctors to move forward with treatment based on the individual instead of being forced to wait until the correct age has been reached for the doctors/ect to begin treatment.

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    I scrolled through the trans sub for a while and now my feed is getting spammed by ads for tucking panties lmao

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    I made Sambal Setan (Devil’s Sambal) from a pepper plant I grew and it has so far eliminated all the white ‘I like spicy food’ people around me

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    I might write a thread about what wisconscom’s taught me about myself. But I do have a habit of elaborately planning out posts down to the very sentences I’ll use and then never getting around to writing them, something I came dangerously close to doing with my Beiyang thread.

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    Recently finished Final Fantasy 15 and I have to hold back tears whenever I think about the ending. It’s been a while since a game impacted me emotionally and I’m devastated. The last chapter was like a knife in my heart followed by another followed by another.

    There’s still a ton of quests and postgame stuff left but to do them, you need to time travel back in the story and adventuring with your group just isn’t the same anymore after you know what’s waiting for them )':

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      It’s a strange choice, isn’t it, leaving all the ‘post-game’ material for after the ending. I found the whole thing unsatisfying because of the structure. The story itself was decent. The atmosphere throughout—wow; very ffvii disc one!

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        Yeah this game is full of strange choices - I played it blind so I didn’t know the point of no return was halfway through. I have gamer brain so I completed every available sidequest ASAP and by the time I was done, I was 50 levels above what’s recommended for the last few chapters. But apparently that’s how the game is meant to be played??? I literally forgot what the main plot was because of how much time I spent away from it. Vyv, Dave, and Sania each have more presence than the villains. And you have more chemistry with the beach resort chef than your wife hahaha

        I still adore the game though! As far as I’m concerned, the political stuff is just pretense for the road trip and the devs should’ve spent even less time on it.

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          I kinda want to play through again now. It maybe complete some of the post game/expansions

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            Have you played any of the DLCs? The Prompto one gives you lore that really should’ve been in the main game and the Ignis one gives you an alternate ending that’s really touching. And the Gladi one gives you a topless outfit (very important).

            Also the final dungeon is the most absurd thing I’ve ever played, I can’t believe I’ve never heard anyone mention it! If you don’t know what Pitioss is, you gotta discover it for yourself. It’s absolutely ridiculous, an utterly deranged choice in a game already full of them. 15/10, wouldn’t change a thing

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              I couldn’t get them to load. I think because I messed up the download and installed them part way through my game. So I’ve not played them yet. But I do have a key, so I should be able to play if I started again. Unless… do you need to complete the main game first? Maybe it’ll let me because I do have a complete save.

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                You can play the dlc whenever, even before the main game if you feel like it. Does it work if you go to the store directly from the game’s title screen?

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                  In that case, I think I messed up the install. I’ll try going straight to the store through the game. Might take me a while because I don’t have a monitor/screen at the moment.