• JackFrostNCola@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    I didnt think this needed to be said but making a joke at a bystanders expense, particularly a hurtful personal attack, is not ok.
    Sure jokes are give and take with some good natured ribbing but this strays more into carless, or potentially malicious territory.

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      2 months ago

      Nah, it is good natured ribbing 100%. People who are alone for 28 years in a row either are completely inept at human interaction or don’t want a partner / aren’t ready for one. The first case is incredibly rare, in the second case you probably are secure enough in it to laugh with them. And at the end of the day - it worked to get the cousing to start laughing and stop thinking about how hurt they are.

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        2 months ago

        Wow, you’re a twat.

        “make her feel better for 5 minutes by making him feel worse for… however long that scar lasts, oh, and you can’t find a relationship because you suck” has got to be the shittest take I’ve heard all day

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        I don’t know how many 28+ year old virgins you’ve met, but I know like 5-6, none of whom are completely socially inept(I have really nerdy hobbies? I don’t know why I know so many), and only one would be at all cool with another person making a joke about it, but still probably not a random aunt.

        The one other exception I can think of is the religiously celibate, who might be a-okay with it from their aunt to cheer up a cousin, but I’m sure not doing it.

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        2 months ago

        Lmao what

        If you don’t want one and people make fun of you for that that is still shitty. Also it’s entirely possible to want one but just not enough to go actively looking. The only person that would be allowed to make that joke without being very certain he doesn’t mind would be anon himself. Society’s ultra focus on relationships and sex can feel bad enough without your fucking family making fun of you.

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        2 months ago

        And at the end of the day - it worked to get the cousing to start laughing and stop thinking about how hurt they are.

        For half a second? Because surely that joke didn’t cure her sadness.