I’ve been self-locking on and off for several years. I now use a cherry keeper cage that is basically the size of my glans. Sometimes I put it on as foreplay to fapping in the next couple hours. Mostly I try (barrier is comfort) to wear it all-day on days that I wear it. I’d love to be able to wear it as much of the time as possible (eg, 24/7 and only unlock for small periods of time for predefined tasks like routine hygiene). I suppose I’m slowly learning to wear it for longer periods of time. I often but not always unlock and fap/masturbate afterwards - before I go to sleep for example. I’m more interested in the gendering and orgasm control effects of chastity (eg, can’t fap, masturbate, or penetrate anyone and are sub-like) than I am pure orgasm denial. Having a partner who is my keyholder would be a dream come true. I suppose I’m slowly working my way there (hopefully) as I become more confident with who I am, including that chastity might be a sexual non-negotiable for me (not all the time necessarily, but at least some of the time).
More the 'why' I engage in chastity (content warning: gender dysphoria):
Chastity is a fun fetish but on a more holistic level, I’m beginning to see my desire to wear my cage as a barometer of gender dysphoria. For example, if I wake up and want to put on my cage right away, I’ll do so but I’m also making a mental note that I’m probably feeling significantly dysphoric and I should address that today beyond just the cage. Because the cage is great but it’s not an all-in-one long-term solution to gender dysphoria for me.
I’ve been self-locking on and off for several years. I now use a cherry keeper cage that is basically the size of my glans. Sometimes I put it on as foreplay to fapping in the next couple hours. Mostly I try (barrier is comfort) to wear it all-day on days that I wear it. I’d love to be able to wear it as much of the time as possible (eg, 24/7 and only unlock for small periods of time for predefined tasks like routine hygiene). I suppose I’m slowly learning to wear it for longer periods of time. I often but not always unlock and fap/masturbate afterwards - before I go to sleep for example. I’m more interested in the gendering and orgasm control effects of chastity (eg, can’t fap, masturbate, or penetrate anyone and are sub-like) than I am pure orgasm denial. Having a partner who is my keyholder would be a dream come true. I suppose I’m slowly working my way there (hopefully) as I become more confident with who I am, including that chastity might be a sexual non-negotiable for me (not all the time necessarily, but at least some of the time).
More the 'why' I engage in chastity (content warning: gender dysphoria):
Chastity is a fun fetish but on a more holistic level, I’m beginning to see my desire to wear my cage as a barometer of gender dysphoria. For example, if I wake up and want to put on my cage right away, I’ll do so but I’m also making a mental note that I’m probably feeling significantly dysphoric and I should address that today beyond just the cage. Because the cage is great but it’s not an all-in-one long-term solution to gender dysphoria for me.