I’ve been waiting until after Christmas day to make this post, but some of our communities recently have had a lot of noise and upset over someone that uses neopronouns that most people are unfamiliar with.
So I want to make this clear. A persons pronouns are to be respected. This is true when the user is using neopronouns that you’re unfamiliar with. It’s true even if you think someone is trolling. Pronouns are not rewards for good behaviour. They aren’t only to be respected when you like the person you’re interacting with, or if their pronouns “make sense” to you. Trolls, spammers, twitter users, it doesn’t matter who they are, your options are to respect their pronouns, or to not engage with them.
I really want to re-iterate the importance of this. Gender diverse folk are undermined, invalidated and questioned at every step of our lives. As a community, we need to be working to undo that, not creating more of it, and that means there is no space for treating pronouns (including neopronouns) as a reward for good behaviour.
This isn’t a free reign for trolls and spammers. The rules still apply. Trolling, spamming, etc will continue to be dealt with, but it’s not an excuse to act as if respecting someones pronouns is optional.
It’s incredibly disappointing to see you do the exact same thing as PugJesus, on the exact same post. Grow up. You bringing up being a cis gay man and how you’ve been attacked before, in response to having transphobic actions called out, is a stereotype that all trans people recognise, do you know that? Respectability politics is gross, take it back to your own instance.
Edit: I’ll be sad to lose the piracy community, but this makes me feel like I need to use what little voice I have here on Blahaj to call for defederation. Unless @db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com can definitively say this isn’t how your instance is run, but I’m not going to hold my breath considering their response to your comment locking that thread.