Yeah, I was apart of the mod team, but they just betrayed me, and barely listened to me. There was one that seemed to hate me and they accused me of doxxing someone when I accidentally revealed, but quickly deleted, the state that they were living in. Keep in mind that I was informed multiple times that that’s not doxxing and that doxxing would involve, say, the address, first and last name, town, family members, etc., etc., etc. I apologized multiple times, they said I didn’t, and that was the end of it, and later, I was banned.

My issue was that they didn’t resolve this till months afterward. I would’ve preferred that they just banned me right there and then when I made the mistake rather than just let six months pass after the fact or at least give enact some sort of punishment then. But if they were going to let a mod like me get away with it, one they treated rudely from the get-go, then maybe they shouldn’t have been mods and admins to begin with…

Oh yeah, and, unfortunately, “dunk culture” was a real issue, but the mods barely did anything until later and by that point it just rankled people, rightly, for how they handled it.

They weren’t good administrators. They allowed things to pass for people or issues until they got popular in the moment (usually, this meant that enough people at the time were there and could get others to participate in making a stink about it at that point in time so the popularity of such a thing was always dubious), but barely did anything for the little gal, so to speak. They only did stuff if the community made a big ruckus over it. I saw many people bullied over trifling shit. And many left in my time as mod and afterward, when I was still a member.

I liked Carcosa, but she (I hope I got the pronouns right, I will correct if need be) just listened to others, and deferred to others. You know those leaders sometimes that just defer to their subordinates do or say? That was Carcosa and it showed. She just repeated what others told her.

I liked Othello and we were good friends, but they were barely listened to either by the other mods, and one of the mods in the inner circle shot down any proposals that didn’t jive with the rest of the mods, who weren’t BIPOC. And Othello was BIPOC like me. Go figure.

Many gave “cease and desist” orders but it was barely used or enforced so people got badgered and left.

I’m glad to have both.

There are certain times I just need to be with other ML’s but lemmygrad is admittedly small and therefore limited in the amount of discussion a post gets as well as how many topics are posted and it’s nice to have a bigger community even if it’s less laser-aligned with my philosophy on all aspects and at times has a culture I need a breather from for a few minutes despite overall liking it. I enjoy community events like movie nights that you have over there a great deal and I think it’s a very good thing.

The admins as a whole I cannot say. The head admin, the owner is a main lemmy dev and I also know them from reddit where they were consistently a poster with principled, quality effort years before I ever heard of this place or lemmy was really even publicly known at all. So I trust the top admin here quite a bit, if they dipped out the whole lemmyverse would notice and ideologically I trust them to an incredible amount.

Agreed. It’d probably take a full changeover of the admin team to give me any confidence that if something is wrong someone will say something… But even opening the door to possible cyberattack and doxxing of comrades is always going to be a stain on the website for me. I’ve been on from day 1 but I question if I will continue with the site after this – not that it really matters if I’m there lol but still

Really malicious negligence by the admin team against the community