I’m in a happy relationship with a woman, but some man I talked to once kept messaging me and suggesting we be in a relationship. I blocked him once several months ago (back when I was single because I was uninterested) and then unblocked him.

Sure enough, when I went to check in with him and see how life was going, I made a mistake. he was at it again and kept suggesting again that we be in a relationship.

He seems like a good friend and he seems nice enough but he seems like he would objectify me too much even if I were to be in an open relationship if all he cares about is being mine and not who I am.

I didn’t want to deal with it, so I decided to block him, but I feel bad 😓. Plus, I’ll be friends with people but I’ll block if they suggest I date them, especially when I’m dating.

It’s a bit different now because I’m legal, but I remember during my first days of posting on the internet (c. 2014) there were guys who looked around my age now claiming to be like 15 even though they looked about ten years older. Luckily, I blocked them too and even got my first boyfriend then! 🙂

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    5 days ago

    Off-topic but some things I don’t understand:

    seems like objectification to care more about whether I’d date him or not than who I am as a person and guilt-tripping me (you broke my heart, you made me sad) when I said no.

    He seems too focused on whether or not I have a boyfriend but completely ignores the fact that I’ve liked girls too? Ugh, some cishet men (just some) 😓