Rough night sleep as you might imagine. I’m really torn between cooking up a whole lasagna and casserole and dropping it over and recognising that I’m just trying to do something to deal with how I feel and that’s kinda fuckin rude. They’ll have family and shit around all the time anyway.
My go to for these situations is to drop off toilet paper, tissues and some basics like tea, coffee and long life milk. Grief makes it hard to keep track of the basics and you also have lots of people visiting you, so those are the sorts of things you most want. Food can cause more problems, because you have to find somewhere in the fridge for it etc.
If it’s just happened, I’d say leave them be. When it’s settled maybe look at mowing the lawns, or taking the kids for a bit.
Apparently it happened Monday but yeah thinking we might leave it a few days before we reach out, let them know if there’s anything they need.
It’s nice to let them know, but many people in crisis will just say “we’re fine” or similar if offered help. Try to look for a decision or some effort you can take out of their hands.
Try not to be so hard on yourself man.
Your heart is in right place. Give them a couple of days to get over the shock then you can extend your condolences and assist where you can.
I’m sorry. I’m at a loss, the tp and milk idea is a good one though.
I’m sorry mate. If it’s any help, I’ve always found in the days and first couple of weeks after someone passes away there are heaps of people coming around and offering help in various ways. Then people seem to go back to their own lives and you’re truly left with the aftermath. This is when I begin to offer help with something, which is sometimes when they really need it and also when my own emotions are less raw and I can be more useful. That’s just me though.
I had a bad dream that I accidentally put diesel in my car.
It was nightmare fuel
🥁
I had a dream the other night that I was at a swimming carnival and everyone was wearing shoes, even in the water, so I took mine off and when I went to get them after my swim they had been stolen.
i dreamed I hugged and hugged and hugged a friend, they really needed it
My dream was about vomiting I think? So weird. Maybe I need to purge things from my life.
As the owner of both a petrol and diesel cars I live in fear of this.
We’re outside burning shit
One of my favourite pastimes, the “bush telly”
Almost looks like an old dryer or washer drum
It is an old washing machine drum
Looks to be in pretty good nick. I love a fire pit action.
The party was a hit. Everyone went home feeling good about themselves. Most have shit parents. No young person deserves to be a disappointment to their parents for their sexual or gender orientation. They’re just people. Bring in the hugs. I don’t care. My home is always welcome.
Sounds like a huge success :)
Great to hear it went well :) Sounds like some heavy conversations were had though!
I wasn’t there to hear all the conversations. I already knew a lot. It’s sad to know some parents are neglectful or abusive. I thought gen x were better than that.
Some fuckwits offleash jack Russell chased the strays away as they were eating.
Then the fucking moron couldn’t get him back for a while. I saw the 2 orange parents come back but not the 2 kittens or the other two.
They did have a head start on him. Just worries me.
Over in Maffra now, I don’t think I’ve ever been in a house bigger than this. My aunt has definitely worked her butt off for this amazing house!
Now her partner just has to sell his place in the city and it’ll be done! So proud of them!
🙂
I love you have good family too ( cos I know you’ve had it rough ) AND they are lucky to have you. 😘
I’m so so grateful for my dad and his side of the family - they’ve always been the people who have encouraged me and loved me for me. Supportive of my interests. Much of the uncertainty I feel about them, is just my own trauma - I fit in so well with my family it’s hard not to see we’re all related. 💜💜
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looks like a stay indoors and wear an oodie kind of day
Yep. One last errand to get a haircut and I’m ready for a snooze with Fluffball.
Footy for me today then some movies and home cooked leftovers.
I haven’t even finished unpacking
Deffo a boozy Eurovision weekend.
I had to venture out but now I am resnuggled and listening to the rain. Bliss
I’m cheating on my usual cafe with the new place across the road.
In my defence, the lady making coffee this morning gave me a half decaf half normal when I asked for a decaf and it fucked me up all day lol
I had this big clothes shopping day planned but fuck that. If I could lug the TV into the bedroom that’d be my spot for the day.
When boyo suggests a glass of wine at 3:30 “you know this will lead to me singing musical theatre, yeah?” “Mmhm!”
The kids are inside doing the same thing. They have a microphone to make it extra theatrical.
Chess & Cabaret please
Some pickles and olives with the cheese?
Absolutely
Managed to break the cold tap in the shower whilst in there. That’s 3 different showers in 3 weeks lol. Managed to fix this one but the other 2 remain borked.
Split second panic thinking ‘ooh if that starts throwing out a jet’. Scared the crap outta me.
Water things and I continue our little spat.
Brisket Benedict. I had to take out about half of the brisket to eat seperately because there was so much 🤤
That looks so good. I haven’t had a hearty, indulgent Benedict in a while
Unhinge your jaw snd power on
I actually can casually unhinge my jaw…
If I could I’d swallow that whole and lie there digesting for days like a snake 🐍
Talent
I have been unmotivated for packing, but I did get motivated to finish a sewing project I’ve been planning for ages. A work jacket which I removed the logo from has now had an embroidered tree sewn in its place to cover the damage from removing the stitching. Now I have another jacket I can wear over winter.
I’ve been topping off my aliexpress orders with sew on patches to get the free postage. I’ve got a few to add to my winter jacket. Progress flag, The Exploited, Electricity will kill You and the Nerv Logo from Evangelion.
Good option. My go to cheap item has generally been decals.
Link for the evangelion patch?
Cheers!
i’ve been buying patches too, to liven up and individualise boring winter clothes
bright winter themes 🙂🦊
I can haz a cold. 🤧 Oodie barely enough to keep me warm.
i will sleep more
Paracetamol and warm broth 😥
I’ve had a nap now so I hopefully won’t need one later. I thought I was at the getting better stage but I think I’m getting worse
I should be working on my thesis but man, 3 days straight of hard work on it has fried my brain a little. Instead I’m watching really fascinating videos about linguistics by Dr Geoff Lindsay so I can still feel smart…
3 days straight of hard work is a feat! Take a little break hehe
